Hola gorgeous Goddesses!
This is evidence of my own Self Soothing.
So is my not-as-frequent-as-always posting.
This last week we’ve been talking about Self Soothing (Parts One & Two here).
The Sixth Way, and the most important way to self-soothe is… I am slowly discovering…
6. Give yourself what you need.
During my life-year I get a couple of special weeks that I call “Big Medicine Week.”
Hellllooooo buttons getting pressed on every single level! Oh hai exhaustion and needing to retreat! Hi hi waves of emotion! Hola huge big painful sore lessons emerging! Welcome back every fear, inadequacy or pain I haven’t fully healed!
It’s been a time that I’ve definitely needed to self-soothe.
And I’ve needed to do that one thing that I forget to do:
Give myself what I need.
And when I asked myself at first what I needed, I didn’t hear anything.
And then I heard:
You need to feel this.
So I sat with all those feelings. I didn’t try to make them feel better. I didn’t squash them down. I didn’t resist them. What a change that was – I’m the self-apointed Queen of Having All My Stuff Together.
This week, I needed to not have it all together.
This week, I needed to not do so much.
This week, I needed picnics and tears and bed and snotty tissues. This week I needed to be vulnerable and tell my love, family and friends how I was feeling. This week, I needed to feel it all, and give myself what I need.
Today is one of my usual work days – usually filled with To Do lists and hyper-business. I spoke with my business accountability partner this morning, and in her usual, beautiful, centred way, she asked me what I needed today. And the answer was this:
Today, I need to lie down in front of the tv, and read, and do a little bit of painting.
And so I am.
Right here, right now,
what is it that you need to give yourself?
I just wanted you to know…
from my little blanket and book nest, my space of self soothing…
that you are so loved,
so needed,
so perfect just as you are.
Love,
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When I went back to work the first thing I bought for myself was a down topper for my mattress and a nice fluffy comforter for the bed and some down pillows. Now I have a bright lamp for reading and can cocoon in there most happily when I get the time.
I’m so glad you took the time you needed to do what you needed to do for you! You are loved and perfect just as you are too.
xxoo
i heart you so much, Goddess Loran.
Your cocoon sounds perfectly divine.
j’adore!
i will pass you tissues and paintbrushes and chocolate anytime you want….loving the bigness of your self – that you expand to include hard stuff and snot is a gift to us all
big hugs to you beautiful one. i am very familiar with crazy emotions and embracing them is the best way. enjoy cuddling up, reading and dabbling with your paints. comfort creative is just as good as comfort food
big love, d xxx
mmmm that looks soooo cozy ..lets have a Goddessfest snot and all. big hugs and Goddess love to you our beautiful precious Leonie .. thankyou so much for giving us all permission to be ourselves again …. xxoo Carole oh and xo for movie hound Charlie
Dearest Goddess Leonie~
I’m so glad to hear you are taking sweet time to heal yourself. It can be difficult to balance being a “Power Lady” and feeling all the squishy feelings that make us people creatures. I’m having a similar sort of week and am so enjoying your series on self soothing–so many souls need this right now. *g i a n t s i g h of glorious r e l i e f*
Also, I wanted to let you know I featured you in a post this week: http://herspeak.blogspot.com/search/label/12%20Secrets
Much Joy, Many Blissings~*
(((h u g s)))))
Molly
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