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We’ve all been there.

On the days you might feel unmotivated and uninspired.

Days when you feel like it’s hard to get yourself going and excited about tackling your to-do list.

So: what to do? How to fix it? How to get yourself back into the swing of things?

First step: Are you unmotivated or are you burnt out?

One is when your world is feeling depleted and you actually need to fill up your inspiration well, or get out of the house and stop working.

The second is what I call the common flu symptoms of procrastination.
This is really important for you to check in and work out.
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Because I can give you all the motivation tips under the sun. But I’d say about 10% of you who are reading this aren’t actually unmotivated, you’re burnt out. And it’s just not the season for you to be pushing.
No amount of pushing will heal burn out. Here’s what will.

So check-in to yourself. Are you burnt out? Or are you unmotivated?

If you are feeling truly depleted and burnt out, you need to honor that feeling—even if it means not getting that thing done today.

So first and foremost, make sure that you’re aware of whether you’re actually in a place of needing a legitimate break to restore your energy, or if it’s just common flu procrastination and you just need to get some shit done because you’ll feel better about it afterward.

Here’s a helpful flowchart:

Why Am I Procrastinating SML

If you’re just feeling the common flu symptoms of procrastination, the best cure is to get some shit done!

To me, if I’m just having common flu symptoms of procrastination, I always remember that I actually feel a lot better after I get something done.

If I sit around in procrastination all afternoon, I am going to feel kind of pissy and grumpy and grouchy.

So I ask myself:

“What could I do now that I actually feel interested in doing?”
or
“Do I just set a time to work on this one thing I’m really putting off?”

I’ve talked about Brian Tracy’s great book, Eat The Frog before, and that’s what he calls doing that thing you’re putting off – eating the frog.  The old saying goes, “If the first thing you do in the morning is eat a live frog, that’s the worst thing that can happen to you all day!” In other words,

Do the thing you want to do the LEAST, first.

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I notice when I’ve got something on my to-do list I’m kind of avoiding because – I don’t  feel like doing it, but I know it’s really important and needs to be done, I just gum through and get as much done in an hour, because it feels SOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better to have things finished than for it to still be on my to-do list and have done sweet frickall nooooothing!

Example time: something I put off for MONTHS was rewriting all of my email auto-responders. I knew it had to be done, but I avoided it and felt grumpy about it.
I just knew I’d feel so much better after rewriting these 30 emails – it was messing with my creative mojo! So one day I told my accountability partners that I was going to complete them THAT DAY, I turned on my Self Control App, sat down over a two-hour block and just hammered them out. And guess what? I did feel so much better when they were done because they were out of my world.
They were finished, they were done, they’re out doing what they were meant to do.
And I was onto the next thing, instead of still procrastinating and being in major avoidance mode.
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Set a timer to help you eat your frogs.

One of the things that works best for me is setting a timer to focus on that froggy I don’t want to eat.

  • You can use a plain, ordinary kitchen timer, or the timer on your phone if you like!
  • I like the Self Control App because it actually blocks access to websites that are time wasters.
  • If you just want to time how long you work, the Awareness app is nice, because it sounds a Tibetan singing bowl after you’ve been working for an hour, to prompt you to take a break!

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Break big hairy scary tasks down into smaller bites.

If you’re really, really procrastinating about something, break it down into really miniature to-do steps because they’re so much easier to complete, and they’ll give you momentum to keep on going. When you put something like, “Launch new program,” or “Build website” on your to do list, that’s not helpful at all, duckies!  I mean, that’s like saying, “Be a better person,” or “End world hunger.” Yeah, that’s lovely, but HOW?? So when you have a big hairy, scary thing you’re procrastinating about, try breaking it down into much smaller tasks.

So if the overall goal is “Launch program,” you might have, “Write an outline,” “record one audio” or “email friend about offering a bonus” on your to do list. The other awesome-o thing about these smaller tasks is that when they’re done, they feel like a win!  They are little itty bitty successes that make you feel GREAT as you work towards your bigger goal.

Very, very important to give ourselves these wins, as it will increase our motivation to keep going!

Because remember – Momentum builds momentum!

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Add the time to your to dos.

When you’re breaking down your list into smaller bites, make sure that if you’re procrastinating, you drill your to-do list down into bites that can be concluded in 20 minutes. If you’ve got a whole list of emails that need to be written, then you say I want to do 5 emails, and I’ve got 20 minutes to make that happen. That’s what works for me. That way, when you’re looking at your list you don’t say to yourself, “Oh, I only have an hour and that thing will take too long!” You can say, “I have an hour, so I can do these two or three things.” BOOM!  Done.  Success and forward motion!

And that’s what it’s all about, darlinghearts!  Forward motion.

Eat one frog a day and you’ll be well on your way to success!

Don’t care how ya need to make it palatable — whether you saute in garlic, deep fry, or create a vegetarian beanlog shaped into a frog… as long as it’s done, that’s what counts.

To your shining, divine success,

P.S. Six days before we begin!

Want to know how to shine your light even BIGGER + BRIGHTER in the world? Want to know how to help even more people with your gifts? Want to have a bigger impact? Want more financial abundance to nourish you, your family, your community, your world?

DOUBLE YOUR BIZ starts in 6 days!!!!

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A coupla weeks ago, I challenged you to look at where you were feeling stuck in the details. (P.S. Did you do it? If not, try it right now!)

A lot of times it’s things like:

I can’t decide on a photo for my website

– or –

I don’t know how to write my bio

– or –

I can’t decide what colors this product should be

– or –

I don’t know which festivals I should go to.

And if we just sit ourselves down and have a little CHAT and say, “It’s time to make a decision, goddess!” we can work through it.

And sometimes we are more deeply stuck.

Sometimes we are banging our heads against the kind of stuck that we can’t even articulate. We can’t give it a name or figure out what the decision we need to make even IS.

That is a deep, spiritual stuck.

I looooooove this quote:

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Stuck can be a lot of things. It can be coming against a wall of your own fear, where frustrations and self criticisms surface.  I have been stuck many times.  I have felt vulnerable and afraid and uncertain. I didn’t know how to face Athena, goddess of courage. I didn’t even know how to ask for what I wanted!

But every time, I have been able to come unstuck, and in doing that, I have found that it has broken my heart open to the world.

Here’s how:

1. I get honest about my stuckness.

And being honest about it helps me get unstuck.

You have to be honest about it with yourself, yuppers, but many times that means being honest with someone else.  OUT LOUD.

Sometimes I would go to my women’s circle or my mastermind and say: I’m stuck. I don’t know how to do this. I’m afraid.

And every time EVERY DAMN TIME those wise women would say exactly what I needed to hear.

You don’t need to learn it in two weeks, Leonie.

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Gentleness, gentleness.

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Speak your truth

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I believe in you.

That’s why I’m such a freaking advocate for developing these kinds of relationships. You DO have to spend time and energy in creating it for yourself. But the rewards of becoming an integral member of a mastermind or women’s circle is HUGE. Profoundly wonderous for you, your life, your spirit and your business.

If you haven’t found that kind of tribe yet, or if you have but don’t know how to maximise results from it, there’s a whole section in the upcoming Double Your Biz program devoted to it.

I’m such a devotee of those kind of powerful circles, and I really want to help you and women everywhere realise how much power, joy and love there is in creating and maintaing spaces like that.

So yus, tell someone else when you’re stuck. Shining light on it starts scaring the fear monster away.

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2. Make a plan.

Once you’ve come out with it and let it all out into the world, it’s time to do something about it.

Don’t just get bloody stuck in the circuit of feeling stuck.

Because, while I am all for tapping and affirmations and positive visualizations and meditation and yoga and so on, I am also even more for getting shit done.

Once you have figured out and acknowledged that you are stuck, you’ve gotsa make a plan and take a step to get UNstuck, pandas. Because guess what? Sitting around feeling stuck sucks balls. It’s unfun. It’s unexciting. Inertia breeds more inertia. Whereas movement creates more movement. Dreams come true when you get outta Stucksville. It’s a shitty town and nobody wants to live there. Don’t buy a house there. Just rent a hotel room for the night and then make a plan to get the frick out.

(I say that with love. Of course. Ha!)

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3. Pick ONE THING you can do right now, today, in the next hour, that might move you out of stucksville.

Notice I said MIGHT – you don’t have to be sure! You don’t have to know 100 percent that this thing will work.  You just have to bloody do it. Movement breeds movement. Movement makes miracles happen.

Here’s some ideas of shit to do to get you unstuck:

  • Do that one thing that you have been putting off.
    Have you heard the phrase, “Do the thing you want to do the least, FIRST”? It’s pretty true, and mighty empowering. Because if you can get the icky stuff out of the way up top, you’ll have way more space for the good stuff. Once you get it outta the way, you’ll free up way more energy and get excited to make more stuff happen. Brian Tracy (productivity guru + delish voice bearer) calls it eating the frog. Watch a video about eating ze frog here.
  • Declutter.
    Whenever I’m feeling tetchy and stuck, I look around me and there’s usually some clutter hanging around that’s harshin’ on my mellow. Ha!
    My desk is a big one. If it starts looking less like a flat meadow and more like mountainous terrain, I need to level it.
    Cleaning something out, getting rid of something that’s not serving you, making space for something new.
    And cleansing with sage/crystals + the usual hippy dippy methods work wonders for me too.
    (If you’re one of my Academy members: Use the Sacred Space Clearing Kit or Goddess Haven e-course)
  • Go for a walk.
    When I interviewed one of my creative heroes Julia Cameron, she said something that stuck with me. She said whenever she’s feeling stuck, she goes for a walk. That when she moves a muscle, she moves her mood. And it’s bloody true. Just try starting off for a walk feeling pissy. After just five minutes you’ll return in a different headspace where you were before.
    This is also a good hint for mamas out there. When my lil mermaids are having a freaking horror of a witching hour at 5pm, I pop them in the double stroller/Ergo, and we hoik it up the hill to go say hello to the horse down the road. Starry yabbers the whole way, Beth stares at the sky, and I take big ole gulping lungfuls of air. And things are always better by the time we turn onto our gravel road again.
  • Journal or goals time.
    It’s never the wrong time to make a goal! If you used our Create Your Amazing Life Workbook back in January, pull it out! Look at what you wrote. Tear it up and do it again if things have changed. Start fresh. Blank sheet of paper and your favorite colors. Get out your favourite journal. Let it all pour out. Things will change.
  • Get some education into ya.
    If you don’t know where to start with getting unstuck, then I suggest education. Learning from someone who has done what you want to do gives you a whole new perspective. It literally rewires your brain. Education FOREVA!!! (Like right now, I’m doing a graphic design program, a self help course and revisiting a business program. Learning is everything!) Of COURSE, I think the Academy is a pretty rad place to start coz I pour so much into it, but only you can decide what you need.
    And DO NOT just buy a program and say you’ll do it; schedule time for education into your life and make it happen, whether it’s reading a book from the library, or doing an ecourse, or signing up for something at your local uni.

Try something. I can guarantee you will feel better simply for having moved.

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4. Know your limits (and get some support).

Now, all that sounds la la la lovely in a perfect world.

But we don’t live in a perfect world, love bugs.

We live in a world of depression and anxiety and hyperemesis gravidarum, and downsizing, and breaking up, and endings, and stress, and all SORTS of things that can throw us for a loop.

These are NOT your fault. They are NOT the universe punishing you or any of that kind of shit.

But they ARE real, they are important, they are notices from the universe that you’d better slow the fuck down and take a look at what’s really going on in your life.

And they are almost always a time when you need to reach out and get some support.

You’ve got to be honest about the support you need.

I think sometimes we believe we’re supposed to be able to do it all. We’re supposed to heal ourselves and be perfect at this thing or that thing, and never get angry, and never need help, and –

BULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLSHIIIIIIIIIIIIT!!!!!!!! (I’m saying that in a loud, sing-song voice.)

All those shoulds are SO not true. They are misconceptions. And they can cause such pain when we believe in them.

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You are who you are.  You need what you need.  You must ask for the help you want.

My hunky hubby and I have a pretty amazing relationship, and a big huge ginormous part of that is being able to say to each other, “Hey! You’re acting a little bonkers! Do you need some help?”

But if you don’t have someone in your life that knows your particular brand of crazy well enough to call you out on it, you’re going to need to say to them:

I need some help.

Such big, scary, amazing words.

Maybe you need some help with childcare, or housework, or work-work. Maybe you need someone to talk to like a coach or a therapist or just a BFF. Maybe you need some medication to make all those chemicals in your brain function the way they were meant to. Maybe you need a massage or some acupuncture or whatever woo woo works for you.

Whatever you need, I’m here to tell you right now: it’s OK!  It’s OK.

It’s so very normal and human to not be able to do EVERYTHING all on your own.

It’s 100% okay and totally wonderful to accept and invite support into your life.

Because here is the secret, lovebugs:

When you do the things you need to do to get unstuck, the whole world will break wide open for you.

You will see that you had the courage you needed all along.

You will realize that you were able to be honest, even when you were afraid of speaking your truth.

You will see that the THING you thought was insurmountable, was totally doable.

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You are amazing.

Don’t sell yourself short by allowing yourself to stay stuck.

SO much love, movement + magic to you,

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Hola fellow unicorn riders (we loved them before it was hipster cool)!

The last couple of weeks, I’ve been talking a whole LOTTA lot about business, because we’re just about to launch a new Amazing Biz and Life Academy program called the Double Your Biz Intensive.

But if you don’t have a biz yet, you might be feeling a bit left out.  Maybe you’ve got a glimmer, a hope, a dream, but you’re not there yet. You’ve got nothing to double!

Well don’t fret darling hearts! I haven’t forgotten you!

We’ve had the Business Goddess ecourse available in the Academy for some time now, and it’s the perrrrrrrfect place to start if you’re just starting out with your biz—or even just nurturing the first spark of an idea.  And if you’re in that space right now, I want you to know that I’m with you, and I have three simple steps you must know about as you jump on this wild donkey journey!

3 Simple But Essential Steps To Starting A Biz You Love

1. Start

First, you must get started. Oh, sounds so damn simple I know… but it’s where SO many peeps get tripped up! This is where your fear, your resistance, your inner demons, your nasty critical voice are all going to leap outta the murky forests of your subconscious mind and jump ya. They’ll tell you that you’re not good enough, that it’s not the right time, that you’re not cut out for business.

You’re going to have a thousand and one reasons why you can’t or you shouldn’t or you mustn’t do this thing that’s calling you. How do you overcome them?

Simple, babe.

Start.

You’re going to feel afraid and sick. You might cry. You might wonder if you’re cut out to be an entrepreneur.

Just start.

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You’re not going to know how to do this thing or that thing that you need to do. You won’t know where the money is coming from to make it happen. You won’t know how to get clients or send an invoice, or create a website.

Start anyway.

And if you’ve already started, start again.

Starting is a mindset. It’s a spiritual place. Every year, every month, every season, every week, every DAY we get the chance to start again. Every single breath we take is a new beginning. Starting is a gift.

Every time I have reached a milestone or a goal, I’ve realized that it’s not the finish line at all: it’s the starting line for something totally new.

Every time you reach a new level, whether it’s launching your website, getting your first client, getting your 100th client, hitting six figures, hitting seven figures—there will be something new to learn, something more to know.

So just start.

The best companion you can have is education, resources you can turn to that will help you take those first steps. That’s why I built the Academy: so you could have access to all my best knowledge in one single place.

So my educational recommendations – when you’re ready to start a new business, check out the Business Goddess course; when you’re ready to grow, you get the Double Your Biz Intensive; when you’re ready to delegate you can use the How to Hire, Grow & Keep A Six-Figure Team.

I can help you every step of the way.

All you have to do is take the first step.

The monsters lose their power when you courageously move forward. Inertia breeds inertia. Momentum breeds momentum.

Be the kind of goddess that starts and moves and just damn well DOES it!

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2. Be Ridonkulously Useful

It doesn’t matter what you do – whether you’re selling sweet sparkly star-encrusted sweaters for kittens or power tools or life coaching or yoga – you MUST be useful.

Your business must be useful in everything you do.

Your products must be useful, yes. (And yes! Luxury is useful! Beauty is useful! Entertainment is useful! Soul warming is useful!) But I truly believe in being useful at every single point of contact with your customers and potential customers.

  • Is your website useful?
  • Is your blog useful?
  • Is your newsletter useful?
  • Are your Facebook updates, tweets, Instagram photos useful in some way?

Ask yourself:

Am I giving my all? Am I doing my best? Am I keeping my customers in mind with everything I do?

Are you being a leader of your community? Big or small, local or global, are you taking care to nurture that community you’re building?

Are you giving them what they need? Are you giving them what they want? (Or are you giving them what you THINK they need and want, instead?)

The interwebs are getting noisy, ducklings.  There is a lot of noise and static and FLUFF out there with very little meaning behind it. Are you going to chase after that craziness with cat memes and mustaches and bacon, or are you going to be the calm in the storm?

I am not saying be boring. EVERYBODY KNOWS, I don’t do boring! I do colorful and goddesses and rainbows and unicorns and SWEARING and TMI and beaches and rainforests and joy.

I don’t do boring.

But I don’t do meaningless, either.

I do fun. I do entertaining. I do beauty and light and love in whatever way I can. I do useful in the way I know that you want me to be useful. It’s my soul’s purpose, and I reaalllllly encourage you to find and do yours.

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3. Keep Going

What do you do after you start? You keep going!

How do you double your biz? Keep going!

(P.S. In case you were wondering: You can’t double something that you STOP DOING!!!) 

Oh, and that fear? That resistance you felt when you were starting?

It doesn’t go away. SORRY! I still feel it. I notice it when I’m on the edge of something new, and I LOVE it because it tells me to wake up! Something’s happening.  Pay attention. It’s SUCH a beautiful opportunity to heal the next layer for me. Entrepreneurship is such a powerful spiritual journey, a place where ya gotta face all your shit and really do self development on a big scale.

So yeah… the fear doesn’t go away. It gets easier though. When you face your monsters once, it’s not as scary the second, eighth or twentieth time around.

It’s like “Oh hey! You again! What do you have to teach me this time? Coz you know I’m not staying stuck and listening to you, right?”

That’s why you have to keep going.

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Keep on…

Keep starting.  Keep being useful. Keep learning. Keep trying new things. Keep ditching the things that don’t work. Keep listening to your soul and what it wants to do. Keep listening to your customers and what they want from you. Keep changing. Keep trying.

Keep going.

Because if you do these things? You CANNOT fail.

Here’s to your beautiful shining light.

You have a gift to share with the world, sweet soul.

Shine bright.

Love,

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