Today’s guest post is by the fabulous Magda Pecsenye. I’ve been a big fan of Magda for a long time. Her parenting blog AskMoxie was one of the biggest sanity-savers and heart-healers for me when I was going through Post Natal Depression. I’m forever thankful for her work in the world.
Magda believes that you’re the best parent for your child, and that you know what’s right for you (even if you haven’t spoken it to yourself yet). She lives in Michigan with her kids and cats.
As you know, I very rarely accept guest posts, but each year I like to invite some gorgeous, passionate, inspiring women to share their new year dreams, goals + miracles.
The more we hear of women dreaming big dreams and making them happen, the more it will become the “new normal” and fuel us to do just the same.
Introducing dear Magda!
Better Together: Doing Leonie’s Workbook Individually Together
You are the best parent for your child. And you’re great exactly the way you are.
That’s what I believe about people, that we’re all just who we’re supposed to be, and that we all already have what we need in us to be the people we want to be, and to be the parents we want to be to our kids.
And that’s why I love love love Leonie’s Create Your Amazing Year workbooks. I’ve been looking for a goal-making tool for my readers for years (we’ve been doing informal New Year “Year in Review” and “Resolutions” posts for years, with people leaving their reviews and plans in the comments). But everything I was finding seemed to be too focused on making us Better People. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with us. Yes, we may have some problems we haven’t figured out yet, or some things we haven’t learned. But I think we’re already pretty great, and just need some encouragement and focus to be able to do whatever we want to do.
So here came Leonie’s lovely workbooks, telling us that we’re allowed to have our own dreams and goals, and we don’t have to become Better People to achieve them.
Just write them down and do it.
I loved it, despite the sparkle. I am not a sparkly person. Not woo-woo at all. I love structure, and paradigms, and models. But all the sparkle and fun freed me up to identify what I wanted and was afraid to admit to myself because they didn’t seem official or serious enough.
This, to me, is the coolest part: I started a closed Facebook group for my readers who were doing the 2013 Your Incredible Year workbook. It became an incredibly supportive group, in which someone would say “I’m not sure I can…” and everyone responded “Of course you can!”
Out of that group people have:
- started a business
- written a fiction book in an hour a day before work every morning
- increased her business 300%
- surrounded themselves with creative people
- found a job that’s the right fit, after looking for the right job for several years
We’re all busy working on the 2014 Create Your Amazing Year workbook in the group right now, and I know I can’t even predict what’s going to happen for the people in the group.
I can, however, predict what’s going to happen for ME, since I’m the one creating my own goals with the workbook.
My sacred words for the year are “love” and “build.”
Last year in my personal life I wanted my year to be about opening up emotionally, and that happened in spades, so this year I want to go deeper.
I’m having a necklace made with my two words on a charm.
(Build is on the other side of love)
I spent last year creating a solid foundation of offerings for my readers across all areas of being-a-person-who’s-a-parent:
- work/life support
- divorce support
- Christmas support.
This year I’m building from that foundation and spreading out, to more places and formats.
The first big project I’m working on for 2014 has been on my mind for months, but I broke it out into steps in my goals book, and will be starting a few weeks into January: Sending out–in my weekly email–the step-by-step process for clarifying your priorities as a person to define your core values as a parent.
It’s felt like a big undertaking, but once I wrote it down in the workbook it all started coming together!
Thank you Magda for sharing this with us. I am so grateful you are you.
And I love thinking of all of you in there supporting each other as you share your dreams and goals for 2014!
Here’s to an amazing 2014 for you all!
All my love,