I’m watching a seminar.
Listening to millionaire mumpreneurs.
Them sharing about the guilt of having to work SO hard.
Of being away from their kids.
Of taking lots of work travel.
Of never, ever taking a day off.
And somehow, somewhere along the line you start thinking that that’s the only way to do it.
The only way to play big and create an incredible business is to work your ass off.
I call bullshit.
It doesn’t HAVE to be like that.
Honestly. It doesn’t.
You’ve got choices.
In many ways, I’m an example of breaking so many business paradigms and “shoulds”:
I am the CEO of a half million dollar a year company.
I also only work two to three hours a day. The majority of my day is spent with my husband and daughter, going on little adventures, crafting, making art and making happy. That’s the thing that’s the most important thing to me. That’s where my incredible life is right now.
And for these couple of hours? I create like a woman on a mission. A rocket lit by soul. I have supreme focus on what I need to do, and I do that. Just that. The thing that will make maximum impact, that will help the most amount of people.
I take holidays and internet sabbaticals.
I don’t travel across the world for the latest seminar. I don’t do live networking. I don’t go anywhere but right here. Why? Because that’s what I need right now. That’s what I love most now. I love home. I’ve done travel.
Maybe in a while I’ll travel again for coaching, masterminds, training, events. Probably with my two loves in tow.
I say no far more often that I say yes.
I think consciously and carefully about where money goes and where it needs to be.
I take evenings off. I don’t work weekends. I never, ever stay up late to burn the midnight oil. I go to bed at 9:30.
I don’t answer emails. I learned long ago that if I did, I would go cuckoo, and I also wouldn’t have the time/energy/inner space to create what I needed to create. I have a lovely support team who looks after them with compassion and zest and commitment.
I have no idea anymore what people are talking about when they talk about inbox doom.
I’m still actively creative. I have creative side projects that have nothing to do with my business.
Most of my friends aren’t in business.
I have large philanthropy goals.
I’m the breadwinner of my family. It’s not awkward. It’s the way our family works best.
I make a concerted effort to switch off my business brain. It does NOT need to be on 24/7. Instead, my whole brain and spirit needs to be nourished through just-for-fun creative side projects, emotional connection with my love, fun with my daughter, journalling, cooking. I read romance novels. I, you know, have a LIFE that’s totally outside of my business.
It’s a life and business on my own terms. In a way that lights my soul. I don’t have to suffer for success.
Lovely, I want you to know:
Your amazing life and amazing business
doesn’t have to look like ANYONE else’s.
That it doesn’t have to be about sacrifice and burn out and disconnection from those things you hold dearest:
your family, your peace of mind, your spirit, your integrity, your time out.
It can be crafted the way YOU love it. The way it makes YOU happy.
Now don’t get me wrong:
it takes focussed work, dedication, faith, commitment. Business will make you step up, become your biggest self, evolve and heal your shit.
It takes everything you’ve got.
But it doesn’t take it all away.
It gives it back to you, over and over.
I see us rising up
to lead a new way of business.
The sacred feminine path. The path of heart and soul and work.
The one that is filled with
dedication without desecration,
faith filled with reason,
committed work without work that gets you committed (to the bonkers zoo).
A business that fits around your life,
not a life that only occurs around the edges of your business.
It’s Totally Possible
You can do this love.
You can do this.
Let’s show the world it’s possible.
Believing in you with my whole heart,