Hola dearest ones,
Thank you all so much for the congratulations + well-wishes on the birth of beautiful Beth.
I am so grateful. We are settling as gently as we can into our new lives as a family of four.
Beth is a living doll. Evidence:
Right at this moment she’s sound asleep nestled up at my feet in her MamaRoo.
That shiz is the bomb dot com, peeps.
Going into newbornhood second the time around, I knew I needed more arms so I could, you know, eat and pick my nose and function and write and type. I’d heard it was the loveliest pair of robot arms around, so I jumped all over it. Hunky love promptly called it “That Expensive Useless Piece of Crap”. Until we brought Beth home and she was unsettled but fell fast asleep in a couple of seconds in it. And then he renamed it “Thank God I Love It Forever.”
So that’s where we’re at with that!
Let’s talk BIZNESS PEEPS!
I’ve got a great question to answer this week. And I know, know, KNOW that there are going to be so many of you nodding your noggins as you read this one and that you will be able to empathize with what she’s saying.
Here’s the beautiful question I got:
How do I get past the uncomfortable fear of putting myself out there?
I know that people say don’t wait for it to be perfect, but still I wait.
So how do you know when it’s time to make that leap to really putting my stuff and me out there and how do you get past the fear?
Ohhh, let me sit with that for a couple of minutes. Can you feel it? Can you sit with it and breathe it in? Because I’m about to hit you with some CRAZY soul wisdom that will change your everlovin’ LIFE if you can take it in:
It’s not your job to wonder if you’re good enough.
It’s not your job to wonder if you’re ready. It’s not your job to look at other people and compare yourself to them.
Your job is to do the thing that lights you up and that you love doing.
Your job is to love your mission and do anything to make that happen.
Your job is to show up, and share your light, and know that you will be fully protected and loved and alive as you do it because that’s what you’re born to do.
You no longer have to hide behind skirts. You no longer have to hide who you are. You are safe to be here, and what’s more you’re so needed.
What you do in the world is needed.
When you change your perspective from worrying if you’re good enough and instead really focus on the fact that there are people out there who need what you do, then it becomes effortless to reach out because you are so called forth by that passion that you have.
It is not your job to freak out. It is not your job to worry. It is your job to put your actions where your intentions are and to make it happen.
But what happens when you hit a block?
Sometimes, YES – you will hit a big ole block.
As you are creating your amazing life and amazing business, you’ll come up against the hard shit.
You’ll come up against fear, self limiting beliefs, subconscious barriers.
I think this is such an important thing for us to discuss as entrepreneurs and as women who walk through the world.
Because so often we think we are alone in this.
We think we are alone in our stuckness and our blocks and our fears.
And we start thinking that maybe we should just STAY stuck. That it’s a sign that it’s not going to work out and that we should back away from our dreams. Because it’s all so hard and confronting and scary when you are there at the edge.
It’s time for a reframe.
It’s not a sign for you to quit.
It’s not a sign for you to give up on yourself.
It’s not a sign that you aren’t good enough.
All it is – is a magnificent, fantastic opportunity for you to heal your shit.
For you to grow into the next evolution of yourself.
For you to become stronger, smarter, more courageous, and more wildly that brave, powerful spirit that you are.
I’ll give a real life example of me hitting my fears:
I set this big intention to build my company into a seven figure a year business. And I so believe that by doing that we’ll be able to help even more people and we’ll be able to hire even more beautiful support staff and increase our philanthropic efforts as well. I wanna be the next Bill Gates of philanthropy, ya know?
Anyway, I set this big intention and then I hit this really big block and this block felt like real fear, and I kind of fell out of love with that goal. I was like well, I’m not sure if I want to grow that big anymore, and maybe I’ll just stay here and maybe I’ll just hide out for a bit.
And I knew I had to get past that block. It wasn’t my job to doubt my goal.
So I always find it really, really useful to have somebody that is a healer of some kind – whether they’re a coach or a mentor or whether they’re a therapist, intuitive healer, kinesiologist, whatever works for you to work with that stuff – so I ended up talking to a coach and I also went to my spiritual healer and had a session around that.
And what came up was that I was stuck because I was afraid of too many privacy intrusions in my life. I had a subconscious fear that I was afraid of somebody being a crazy nutba, and intruding into my life here and my little family and that sort of stuff.
It was this deeply seated fear, and so I worked through it and healed it. I felt much less freaked out and I also had some actionable steps that I needed to take as well about sharing my personal information.
And once I felt clear and healed, I was ready to jump all over my goal again.
And I went ahead and made it HAPPEN.
But here’s the secret, you don’t actually need to heal ALL of your shit before you make things happen.
You don’t have to wait to have all your shit healed before you get shit done.
All you need to do is heal stuff as it comes up along the way.
You’ll know when something needs healing because you’ll feel like you’ve just hit this big wall, and that’s the time when you bring out all your support to heal it.
And as your business grows, as your abundance grows, you’re going to get much more comfortable with spending money on healing and on those kind of supports – just because you realize that your emotional health and your spiritual support is really an integral part of you being able to step up and shine your light in the world.
I’ve still got stuff that needs healing, but it will get healed in time. I’m not going to be the perfect person right now because hey, I’ve got the rest of my life to heal that stuff. All I need to do is heal what needs healing now, and keep on doing what needs to be done. Doing my work in the world is healing to me.
Doing your work in the world is going to heal you.
It’s such a freaking beautiful feeling that you’re going to get addicted to it, and you’re going to keep turning up every single day to get that rush of: yes, I’m doing what I was born to do. I’m helping the people I was born to help. I’m making it happen no matter what comes up, I’m making it happen.
So make that your mantra.
“I’m making it happen.”
Make that the reversal of all your fears.
You don’t need to focus on whether you’re good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, not weird enough, any of those things. Those are questions that don’t belong to you. They are not yours to consider. And they don’t FREAKING matter!
All that matters is you shining your light, doing the thing you were born to do.
Your job is to be your light. Your job is to be you.
It feels really nice to remember it. So whenever you feel the crazies come on, just make sure that you just go back to that knowing, that truth that lights you up, that love that pulls you forward.
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