October 2012

You Have Permission (Right NOW!)

by Leonie Dawson on October 10, 2012

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Dearests,

Right now, I am exhausted, thrilled, overjoyed to the bone.

Life is good. Damn good. It’s all full from leading two retreats in the last two weeks and coaching and doing my inner work and being a mama and making friends and trying new projects. Living here in the rainforest is a magical and wild ride and I continue to be gobsmacked about how everything we need is right here.

And after a full morning of wandering the village markets and finding someone from my old hometown (hilarious!) and spontaneously joining in on a wet felting workshop with Miss O…

what I really need right now in this very moment is:

Rest.

So I give myself permission.

And I think:

What a perfect time to remind you:

You have permission too.

Permission for you to give yourself what you need.

Since I wrote + recorded the below piece it has gone on to become one of my most popular articles.

And it never fails to touch women right where they need it:

right at the core of their needs, reminding them that all of life is a choice.

You can be gentle.

You can find a way to give yourself what you need.

You have permission love,

You always have permission.

 

YOU HAVE PERMISSION.

Today, and everyday, you have permission.

You have permission to say no to demands on your time that don’t light you up, and don’t give energy back to you.

You have permission to not give a crap what’s happening outside your world, and keep your energy focussed on what you are creating.

You have permission to let go of friendships that make you feel like shit.

You have permission to say no whenever you like, however you like, in whatever kind of voice you like, without feeling like only Mean Girls Say No and Nice Girls Say Yes. That’s bull. Yes and No have equal weighting – what’s important is if you use them when they are the best thing for you, not out of fear, obligation or guilt.

You have permission to know that Yes is powerful, and so is No. The power comes from you using either from your highest spirit and truest integrity.

You have permission to change. You have permission to not be the person you once were.

You have permission to get angry and self-righteous, and to also glean the wisdom from those emotions. They are leading you to where your boundaries are, and where they have been crossed, and what you need to do from now on.

You have permission to be exactly how you are.

You have permission to not be more like anyone else in the world, even if you think they are better, wiser or more popular. You have permission to be more like yourself, your gifts and your wisdom.

You have permission to not care what other people think of you.

You have permission to not try to change what other people think of you. You can’t ever argue that you are a good person. They will either know you are, or not. You don’t need to spend time with people who don’t believe in you.

You have permission to do things that your friends and family do not.

You have permission to be wild, expressive, truthful, exciting and outspoken.

You have permission to not accept friendship requests on Facebook, or anywhere else in your life. You have permission to block people whenever you like.

You have permission to share as much or as little as you like. You have permission to blog, or not blog. You have permission to Twitter, or not to Twitter. It doesn’t really matter. As long as it’s making you happy, that’s the best thing.

You have permission to suck at a wide variety of activities. It’s okay. You make up for it with your million other brilliance particles.

You have permission to be whatever body shape you like.

You have permission to choose, and choose again. And then choose again.

You have permission to not always be a perfect image of something.

You have permission to be a contradiction.

You have permission to not go to your school reunion, unless it really excites you and delights you, and you would love to really heart-reconnect with people you went to school with.

You have permission to not be interested in the newest fad: harem pants, geek glasses, polaroid cameras, scrapbooking, macrame. You also have permission to be totally obsessed with them, if it makes your heart light up.

You have permission to cut people from your life. You have permission to surround yourself with people who are good and loving and nurturing to you.

You have permission to be a disappointment to some people, as long as you’re not a disappointment to yourself.

You have permission to do nothing whenever you like.

You have permission to make your big dream come true.

You have permission to not do it all perfectly, or have all your shit together.

You have permission to not forgive people. You have permission to forgive people when it’s right for you.

You have permission to think some people are crazy. You have permission to think some people are smigging ice-cream with chocolate and wafers and sprinkles and cherries on top.

You have permission to not have the perfect relationship.

You have permission to not have a relationship.

You have permission to take whatever time you need for you.

You have permission to make ridiculous choices for yourself.

You have permission to use and listen to your intuition. To feel when things are off, and to remove yourself from them, even when you don’t quite know why. You will always find out why. Our intuition is here to serve us.

You have permission to be down. You have permission to be up.

You have permission to still believe in unicorns and fairies.

You have permission to believe in things that other people think are very very odd and strange. You have permission to not care. You have permission to believe in things that make your life wholer, richer and deeper. You have permission to make your own world that is the truest painting of you.

You have permission to suck at colouring in.

You have permission to say bugger off to anyone who has ever told you that you’re not good enough, you’re not worth it, you are not beautiful, you are not lovable and you are not the most divine, wise, delicious Goddess to walk the planet.

You have permission to know that you are.

You have permission to swear when you like, however you like, to your reckless abandon.

You have permission to not be the best of anything – just the best of yourself. And some days, just the best you can do that day.

You have permission to not always give. You have permission to fill your own cup up first.

You have permission to have things around you that delight you.

You have permission to live in a tipi if you want to, or a mansion. Whatever makes your spirit shine is the right thing for you.

You have permission to make choices on whether it makes your spirit shine.

You have permission to know you are a goddess, even when it doesn’t feel like it. Even when you feel utterly human. Even when you want nothing more than to climb under your blanket, or light up the sky.

You are a goddess.

You have permission.

You have permission.

You have permission.

Amen.

 

BONUS: YOU HAVE PERMISSION PODCAST

 

 

And an extra special bonus gift for you?

The You Have Permission MP3 I recorded.

It is, in the words of one reader, “hilarious + bonkerdoodles + made me love it even more.”


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I send these messages of love out into the world. May they touch, heal, be shared, be felt & do what needs to be done.

 

May you always know, may I always know, we have permission to be who we are & give ourselves what we need.

 

Always love,

 

P.S. Know someone who needs to know this?

Please do share it along, dearests. I know so many of us need to hear it.

xoxo

Things To Share, Shi* I’m Makin’ + Other Tales

by Leonie Dawson on October 4, 2012

This is me. Last night. Waiting for a massage, a pre-retreat ritual. Filling up my energy well. I found an exquisite massage therapist whose hands fit + is intuitive + kind. I feel like I’ve been looking for her for years. I told her cheerfully last night “I’ve officially added you to my support team of superstars!”

I feel very calm, confident + aglow as we enter into our second private coaching retreat in two weeks. I know these four beautiful women are going to receive such ginormous gifts for their lives and businesses. The more I grow + change + shift, the more I can hold the space for women to do the same.

Right now, I feel more calm, confident + peaceful in my life than I think I’ve ever felt before. I mean, it’s always been there on different levels. It just feels more solid now. Like it’s permeated into every moment. I feel sure.

I’ve started a Pinterest board called “Shit I’ve Actually MADE From Pinterest” as a way to challenge myself creatively.

This was the simplest project I’ve undertaken – a balance board for the little mermaid (who ain’t so little anymore!) A bit of board, some bricks from under the house + wa-la! Instant project!

I also have a Pinterest board for “Shit To Make” as a to-do list.

I personally don’t like using Pinterest only to collect aspirations. I want to actually MAKE IT HAPPEN.

I regularly go through and delete pins that I don’t really want to make, or that feel a bit “hipster-try-hardish” to me. Otherwise I get creatively constipated + start feeling like I’ve contracted a rare case of Inferiority Complex. Then I’m forced to give myself a creative enema and just MAKE STUFF ALREADY! STOP PINNING! LOVE UP YOUR OWN DAMN LIFE.

Creative enemas are the best.

After my highly successful woodworking foray with making a cart, I thought to myself:

“Phwoar! Piece of piss! ImagonnamakeTHEWORLDWOOOOODEN!”

So that’s what Imabeendoin.

Was super proud of making some wooden statues/puzzles/play sculptures for Miss O.

This is the fire set. Also made ze mountain + tree set!

Very proud to have made my 100th loan to a woman entrepreneur in a third world country using Kiva.

I truly believe Kiva can change the world in so many wonderful ways.

If you haven’t tried Kiva out yet – click here to get a free $25 trial.

Or if you are already a Kiva user – I’d love for you to join my team of Incredible Women Changing The World. Since starting less than a month ago, we already have over 70 gorgeous members who’ve made almost $4000 in loans! Truly amazing work, women. I am so proud of you!

A new order of stationery arrived yesterday.

I spent an inordinate amount of time sniffing them.

Post-it notes smell AMAAAZING.

As do beeswax crayons.

And these beautiful pencils. (They are expensive, and I’m usually a cheapskate when it comes to art supplies. But holy guacamole, they make drawing so damn PLEASURABLE. So soft! Colourful! Peaceful! Sweetly smelling!)

Please tell me I’m not the only stationery aficionado/sniffer out there.


Annnnd I’m off.

Have four gorgeous women to pick up from the airport to start the next incredible chapter of their lives + businesses… right here, right now.

I had a vision just this morning over the kitchen sink: how when we start businesses, we are pulling around a big box of our gifts behind us in the dirt. And it’s hard yakka, and we can’t travel very far, and it wears us out. And this art of becoming a Business Goddess? It’s adding wheels to the box. So you can travel faster. And easier. And in a bigger way. And we keep adding support and wheels and more pull power to the box… and it becomes even more effortless. Us sharing our gifts with the world. With the wheels, that have already been invented. I have no idea if I’m even making sense here. It makes sense in my heart though.

I see how possible it all truly is.

What a tremendous blessing.

infinite love,

G’day gorgeous ones!

I received this great question from Alana in the UK:

Hey Leonie!

Thank you for inspiring me every day to live my dream – I see how possible it all is now!

Can I ask –  how do you decipher what to post on your business blog – what areas of your life do you keep private?

And how do you take care of safety and privacy stuff when you blog?

This is definitely something we all need to be aware of.

Not in a crazy fear kind of way.

Just the simple, actionable steps you need to take.

And then continue on your merry way.

There’s two issues to tackle here:

Simple privacy (as in: my high school boyfriend knows the colour of the jocks I am currently wearing because I Instagrammed them – aka “The Overshare“) and financial + personal safety.

So let’s first go with the personal privacy stuff first:

 

How Much Of Your Private Life Should You Keep Private On Your Blog?

My simplest answer is this:

I go with my gut.

Whatever my gut tells me, I trust.

It hasn’t failed me yet.

I’m totally okay with telling the world I’m six weeks pregnant. I’m totally okay with crying on video because of a miscarriage scare. I’m totally okay with sharing (semi-nekkid) birth photos & our birth story.

I’m okay with those things because it lit me up and I knew it was the right thing to do.

There are many other things that I don’t share simply because my gut says not to.

My love (who is very hot, I don’t know if I’ve ever mentioned that before) is much more private than me.

 

What to do with husbo’s (and other’s) who have different internal privacy settings than you?

I usually ask his permission before I write something about him or post too many photos of him.

He tells me if he wants something to be taken down.

We talk talk talk. We work out our shared comfort ground.

After 11 years of knowing him, I’ve got a fairly good grasp on what his internal setting would say.

And it’s kinda lucky that he DOES have different settings to me – because oh my goshness, it would be a 24/7 tsunami of Chris hotness if he didn’t.

 

What about children’s photos online?

I also have a certain protective boundary around what I share about my daughter online.

Again, I trust my gut.

I personally am okay with sharing pictures of her online because I don’t see it as any different than taking her out into the world.

(I understand and respect your right to see things differently to me. Your kids, your choices!)

I don’t particularly talk to much about *her* though. It’s up to her to decide who she is.

 

Should you keep private life separate from your business blog?

I personally can’t think of blogging without bringing me and my story into it.

I know my tribe trust me because every single step of the way over the last eight years, they’ve known my story. And for me, it’s like the best thing ever because it means I have 20 000 soul sisters in the world. When I meet fans/tribe/readers, they already know me and therefore they are awesome and fabulous and just the kind of people I want to be around.

And it’s also what I’m attracted to in other people’s blogs: hearing their story, getting to know who they are, how they live their lives.

It’s compelling + teaches me so much.

Again: It’s up to you. Trust your gut. Be as vulnerable, honest + sharing as you are called to be.

 

Let’s talk Personal + Financial Security!

So that was about personal privacy online.

Here’s some general guidelines on shit you need to be aware of to protect your financial + personal security:

  • Always use a PO Box/redirection service when it comes to signing up for domain names, packages for your business etc, your Contact page, your address for mailing services (i.e. Aweber or Infusionsoft), NOT your residential address.
  • Make sure you don’t give away answers to the “secret questions” that can be used to get new passwords for your accounts (i.e. “mother’s maiden name?” “what school you went to?” “town your father was born in?”)
  • Don’t share your middle names online.
  • If you don’t wish to have certain people know what you are doing, consider using a made-up name for the internet (I have a couple of friends who do this!)
  • Consider not using location services on your phone to tag on Facebook or on Instagram where you are on the map, or where you visit.
  • Consider not posting photographs where you are – take photos and post them later.
  • Consider not sharing when you are on vacation – or being very upfront about having house sitters when you are!

 

How A Hippy Protects Herself Energetically

 

And I’m a certified, bonafide hippy crunchy woo-woo.

So I actually do energy techniques as well to energetically + physically protect myself.

I do sacred space clearing + protection of my home + land often (if you’re interested in learning more about how to do this, my Sacred Space Clearing Kit is the best way to begin).

I use the techniques I taught in the Healing Goddess workshop to protect my own energy field.

I trust my gut and if someone gives me the heebyjeebies, I remove myself from their presence (whether online or in real life) el pronto.

I have a No B.S. clause in my life.

I get regular intuitive healing attunements.

If something is off kilter with me, I get it fixed: whether through acupuncture, counselling, intuitive healing, coaching, relationship counselling or western medicine. I call this the “Get A Freaking Professional!” approach to life.

Often weird shit is a reflection that something is askew in your own life. Keep yourself aligned and you’ll have less crazy to attend to.

All this means: I have less weird shit to deal with because I am 100% No Weird Shit Allowed. I enforce that with my boundaries, my intention and with my actions.

 

And most of all:

Again, be aware but not alarmed. Just do what needs doing, and carry on with your glorious life. Don’t let it hold you back!

I see so many clients who let fear creep in so much that it stalls their progress.

It’s needless. All this shiz is workoutable. Just take step by step by step to do what needs doing.

And then keep growing, sharing + shine your light!

love,