Install it (it’s only for Macs, sorry PC lovers.) Ban all the sites of distraction (FB, Twitter, Instagram + Youtube are all on my ban list). Choose how long you can cope without it. And BAM. TOO BAD FOR YOU. NO MORE INTERNET UNTIL TIME IS UP.
In the meantime, you actually, you know… get the important shit done. Who woulda thunk it?
2. Ye Olde Fashioned Self Control App: Take Self Away From Wi Fi + Have An Artist’s Date
Here’s another handy hint: fuck off to a cafe. Drink (chai) tea + eat (gluten-free) cake.
Steer clear of the joints that give you free wifi. That’s kinda counter productive to the whole shindiggle.
Or head to the museum. Or the park. Hey, I used to do ALL my work up a tree, in a park or trawling cafes.
Give yourself an artist’s date (as coined by the magnificent Julia Cameron). Read more about that kinda goodness here.
Fill your well. Enchant yourself. Get inspired. Pour your miracles out.
3. Engage the Wild Donkey Technique
Seriously, possums. Tell me you know about the Wild Donkey Technique To Getting Shit Done, yeah?
If not, download this little (free) e-book for ya that me + my daughter made for you a couple of years ago!
This shit is seriously world changing… I still get emails about it all the time from happy creatives who are finally getting their miracles finished + out in the world!
(Right click or Option click and choose “Save As” or “Download Linked File As”)
4. Keep A Pen + Paper By Your Side
When I’m reading business books, studying education programs, reading the paper, am falling asleep at night or am just out and about… I make sure I keep a pen + paper nearby. That way, whenever I have an idea, I immediately jot it down so it’s out of my head + actionable.
I might have a ginormous brain but I don’t like all its room being taken up with thoughts like
“Must buy brasso next time I’m at the shops so I can clean down all that antique stuff my ma-in-law brought me. Also, I should probably do the polishing of them this weekend. And SHIT I just remembered must book an appointment with my accountant to discuss financial planning. Also: what kind of love affair did Eleanor Roosevelt have with her husband? That might be inspiring. I should read up on that. And holy crap, just remembered, must rewrite all my email autoresponders because they are probably getting old now. Must read up on new potential indigenous health charities based in Australia to support too. And I have to send a card to my bestie. Probably a unicorn one.”
Honestly peeps, that’s exactly how my brain works. That’s like five minutes inside my brain.
And if I tried to remember everything, it’s just not going to fucking happen. I’d feel muddled and anxious all day long.
I pop ALL of these ideas down in my journal in my to do list section. And then when it’s the appropriate time, I cross it all off my list.
And my brain gets to keep all its space for thinking up magical, world-changing ideas. Like this:
5. Don’t stop believing.
As in: don’t spend all your time fucking around, wondering if you’re good enough to do this. Make sure your to do list doesn’t look like this:
Sit around second guessing myself
Procrastinate because I’m shitting myself with fear
Look at what everyone else is doing and compare myself mercilessly, convincing myself it’s “research” but really it’s just fodder to make myself feel like secondhand shit.
Instead, your to do list should look like this:
Have total faith + belief + love for what you are doing
That’s it panda bears.
Go out and do the stuff that matters.
Your work is needed in this world.
Stay focussed, keep the faith, fill the well + pour your miracles out.
Three pieces of inspiration to share with you today.
They all made me gasp with delight.
#1: EVIL HUMANS = INCORRECT
I read this quote on the weekend, and I honestly did a double take when I read it, before squeeing YESSSSSS! It affirms a fundamental principle of humanity that I hold dear.
“Although human beings are capable of being selfish, lustful and aggressive, that is not what they are fundamentally. Beneath the surface, at the psychological and biological core of human nature, we find basic goodness and decency. When people appear to be something other than good and decent, it is only because they are reacting to stress, pain or the deprivation of basic human needs such as security, love and self-esteem.”
– Abraham Maslow
How amazing is that? #soamazing
#2: VERANDAH NEST BEDS ARE THE GREATEST INVENTION IN THE WORLD
It was my mother-in-law’s birthday on the weekend. We celebrated by spending pretty much the entire weekend on the verandah, BBQ-ing and eating and talking and reading and blue butterfly spotting. On Sunday afternoon, Starry got a bit overstimulated from the laid-back celebrationfest… so I ended up making her a little nest on her mini trampoline. She curled up on there, surrounded by her beloved puppies + mermaid toy + dog toy + books. And it was the most beautiful sight… one that curled up in my heart.
It honestly felt like such a beautiful affirmation that all the work we’ve done – as a family, in my business, in our lives… to create the life we wanted… it’s come true. And I’m so glad I get to cultivate this life for my daughter. I’m so glad this is her childhood.
Also: now to make a giant nest bed for the Leonie!
#3: MUSIC INSPIRED BY THE LEONIE!
Once upon a time, I sent myself off to boarding school. And honestly peeps, it was one of the best decisions I ever made for myself – I was so tired of being bullied at my old (state-run, small town) high school. It seemed like there was a chronic case of dickheadedness there, and I left so I didn’t catch it.
ANYHEWSLES, I chose a lil boarding school that was out of the way + filled with kids off remote cattle properties around Northern Australia + Papau New Guinea. Everyone there was kind of just nice and excited to have human contact really, so dickheadedness was contained only to those unfortunate ones that were born with it and weren’t able to shake it off.
SO. WHAT I REALLY MEAN TO SAY IS THIS:
I met some really beautiful souls there. One of them was one of the 13 year old girls I looked after (because, you know, I was a totes responsible 16 year old). Leanne was a ridiculously sweet, kind soul with an angel voice. We spent a lot of time hanging out at the music house (she was there to actually, you know, practice music. I was there to practice kissing boys. #justsoyouknow)
Years later we reconnected, and keep weaving magic together.
She’s still making music. She’s the lead singer of an awesome band — LittleLam. (I still practice kissing boys, but there’s only one of them now, and he’s mega hot. Also, probably not classed as a “boy.” #justsoyouknow)
Anyways, Leanne messaged me to let me know she’d written a song after reading this post of mine.
At which point I melted into a puddle of happy.
SO happy to be doing this work. SO happy to be witnessing others doing theirs.
Something really important to talk about today. This sits near and dear to my heart and soul purpose, and I reckon it does for you too.
I really, really love this world. I love its lands and its animals and its people.
And I want to be an earth angel here. I want to help end suffering. I want to bring kindness into the lives of those who need it. I want kids to be able to live until they are adults. I want them to do their gift in the world. I want mamas to stop dying in childbirth. I want to help men stop starving. I want animals to have their own place here in the world. I want this world to be thriving and surviving for the next hundred thousand years. I want to change the world and make it a sustainable, nourishing, beautiful place for all of us to exist.
And I reckon that BUSINESS and MONEY can change the world.
Am I a big dreamer?
Of course, fuck yeah.
Will I make shit happen?
Yes indeedy. I’m convinced I’m gonna be the next Bill Gates (but way hotter and way more liable to talk about sacred vaginas.)
And so will you.
I honestly believe that EACH of us can make a huge difference in the world. Whether you help just one life – you have just changed one person’s whole world.
I do what I do – in helping women build their own amazing lives and businesses – because I know once their needs and their family’s needs are taken care of, they’ll go on to change their communities and world.
So sweetheart, let’s talk today. Let’s get back to basics and talk about HOW we can use business, money and giving to change the world.
Because we absolutely CAN and WILL make miracles happen.
GIVE MOOLAH TO THE CAUSES THAT LIGHT YOU UP
Kelly Cutrone said in one of her ridiculously good/dramatic/totally Scorpio-ish books (I can’t remember which, I read both back-to-back in delighted rapture):
Help the people you are supposed to help. We each have things that lights us up, that we are called to help. Do that. Just do that. I’m here to help teenage girls and gay boys. That’s who I’m supposed to help. If you’re called to help tiny horses or old people, do that.
(Also, I paraphrased the buggery out of that! Could you tell?)
Anyways, I think it’s bloody useful advice.
Help the people/animals/environments that YOU feel really personally called to doing something about.
Choose what makes you sing, and do it!
HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU GIVE?
Age old question here. And there’s no right answer.
The only right answer is the one that’s right for you.
Sometimes you might only be able to afford a tiny piece here or there.
Other times you might be rollin’ in the abundance and be ready to give in large doses.
I’m always tweaking how much goes out to philanthropy, making increases when the time is right.
It’s gotta feel good inside you – coming from a place of love, ease and abundance and not “ohhhhh fuckkk I feel so much lack right now and this makes me feel even worse!”
Sometimes I decide to invest back into my business by hiring another staff member with the goal that we’re able to make a greater amount of money for charity in a year by doing so. Sometimes I’m on a philanthropy spree, making four figure donations to a charity at a time on top of our monthly donations (some day soon it’ll be a five figure donation! Then a six figure! Then more and more! Hoorah!)
There’s no “right” or “wrong” way of doing this. There ain’t no judgment here, sista.
Do what feels good and right in your heart. When we’re talking about changing the world, there ain’t no wrong answer.
CONSIDER MAKING PHILANTHROPY AN INTEGRAL PART OF YOUR BUSINESS
It doesn’t have to be an after thought. It can be a guiding force in your business. You can decide right from the very beginning (or starting right now) how much of your proceeds will go towards changing the world. You can make it a percentage of your overall revenue, or you can make it a portion of the profits from a special program/offering/event you run.
It’s something I feel really passionate about, and have done in my own business.
For example – every membership in my Academy has part of their membership fees donated to our “Amazing World” charities, including:
Doctors without Borders (Medecins san Frontieres)
World Wildlife Fund
Royal Flying Doctor’s Service
Green Power initiatives
World Vision sponsored children.
It brings me a huge amount of delight to do that with the world.
And I was completely delighted to get this email from Kiva… totally lit me up + inspired me to do even MORE!!!!!!
TOMS shoes is another great example of philanthropy being built into the business model.
Since the very beginning, TOMS have donated a pair of shoes to children in third world countries with every single pair of shoes sold. And now with the introduction of their eyewear range, they are continuing the One-For-One tradition – one pair of glasses to those in need for every pair of glasses sold.
If you want to read more about philanthropy as a sustainable business model, I can highly recommend checking out Blake’s book:
Those donated workbooks ended up being used by over 2300 (!!!!) souls around the planet who needed them, from organisations that included:
women’s shelters in the United States
Indigenous Australian women’s services in Sydney, Australia
disadvantaged women advocacy services in Cambodia
animal sanctuary in the United Kingdom
aged and elderly services in New York
cancer survivors in England
women’s charities in Zimbabwe.
A couple of weeks ago, I got this heart-warming email from one of the case workers who used it.
A few months ago I applied to use the Create your Incredible Year workbook in a community agency. I would like to share with you how the non-profit organisation has used the workbook to support women clients.
As you might know already Bundaberg, Queensland, Australia had its biggest flood in January. There is a whole suburb that went under here and many other places were badly affected. Homes and business were so badly flooded that they won’t be rebuilt again. Many people have struggled after this natural disaster. After reading the offer for the use of the workbook I had a great idea to support women who had been affected by the floods by using this workbook. I went and developed a full day workshop based around the workbook. As we are non-profit organisation and are always needing funding to continue our work I put a proposal together and put it forward to 2 community groups that I thought might help. Zonta and Rotary inner wheel very generously donated money so we could print the book out for participants and funded lunch for the workshop. The workshop was free for all women who attended.
We set out to run 2 workshops, which ended up filling very quickly so we had to put on another one. 40 women in total have attended over 3 workshops and have worked through the ‘Create your Incredible Year’ workbooks. These workshops provided a space where these women could come together to share of their experiences of the floods and begin to imagine a brighter future for themselves and their families.
The women were all deeply grateful for the workbook and for your generosity to allow us to use them. The workbook was the perfect platform to help these women move from feeling helpless and overwhelmed to feeling empowered.
The feedback from the workshops has been very positive and we would like to continue our work throughout the year to support women who have been affected by the floods.
Getting that email made me get sparkle water in my eyes and a funny warm goo in my heart. Totally reminded me of my purpose here on this earth and supercharged me to do even more. I’m so so grateful for the case worker who created the workshops for those women, and the organisations that helped make it all happen. I know this kind of good work is happening all around the planet and I want to support it.
Some other examples of how I’ve donated something-other-than-money to support organisations:
(I’m giving you these examples to serve as inspiration for what’s possible for you in your neck of the woods!)
GET YOSELF A VISIONARY ANTHEM
Whenever I need some philanthropy juice, to remind me what I do and why I do it, to get me back on my path + making miracles happen… I watch this:
Find the song, movie, story, doco that makes your soul sing + calls you to action. And make it your anthem, your touchstone, your reminder.
(I definitely wanna be like a chick version of Bill Gates. Except hotter. And way more liable to talk about sacred vaginas!)
TEACH OTHERS THE VALUE OF PHILANTHROPY
It’s always a wonderful thing to remind each other about how amazing philanthropy is, and how much we really CAN make a difference.
I think we forget sometimes that it’s a really wonderful and useful thing to do – sometimes it takes a tragedy to remind us.
There are people, animals + environments around the earth every day that our love, money, time + energy can help alleviate pain from.
Talk about who you donate to.
Talk about what you are passionate about.
Tell people about the good work that is happening around the world and how they can help.
Think about working as a group with friends/work buddies to support something bigger than you.
I created a Kiva team last year for my tribe to work together. I’m so proud of what all the women have done to change the world – over $11 000 has been lent to fund entrepreneurs in third world countries.
Sometimes I get discouraged that what I’m doing isn’t enough. There’s so much MORE I want to be doing.
But EVERY little bit you do DOES make a difference. If you can help even ONE person, you can consider yourself a success:
To laugh often and love much;
to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children;
to earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others;
to give of one’s self;
to leave the world a bit better,
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation;
to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.
Let’s go change the world and succeed, my darlinghearts, with love, joy + enthusiasm!
I have muchos useful advice/wisdom/guidance for ya’ll today on how to become the woman breadwinner + have a deliriously happy family (with no weirdness between you + your hunky love).
But before THAT happens…
Super exciting news party people!
Leonie TV is back… and way more sexy/weird/funny/irreverent than usual.
I KNOW. HOW IS THAT EVEN DAMN WELL POSSIBLE.
Well it all started because I was bored shitless on the video-making front, and I asked myself what would make me giggle again…
and I thought what was most fun of all was wearing pyjamas while laying in bed because that’s my favourite thing in the world, and one of the true delights of being an entrepreneur I reckon.
So I dragged down a spare bed to our recording studio, and set it up…
only to realise that if we ever have guests/friends/workmen visit…
it’s totally going to look like I record a porn show down there.
Honestly peeps. It cracked me up.
Luckily, if that were the case, I would legit have the Greatest Porn Star Name Known To Mankind (if you follow that ole first pet/first street name formula)…
Are you ready for this?
Yes. I know. YOU ARE WELCOME.
I willfully encouraged other party peeps to share their homegrown porn star names over on ze Facebook playground. There’s enough gigglesnort-worthy-fodder to keep me guffawing for weeks, I tells ya.
It’s pretty much ended up being the most perfect set ever. Already gotten so many laughs out of it!
NOW ON TO DA BIZZZNESS
This week’s sparkly new Pyjamas Entrepreneurs episode answers the following question from ze lovely Danielle:
How do you balance income (or lack of income) between husband and wife? How did you and your hubby decide that is worked for you to be the primary income earner?
But here is where I still have a little bit of a struggle. I know you talk about releasing our hiccups around money. I’ve been doing that for years and it’s allowed me to make money and be of service. But my husband and I still have this weird energy around money and he still wants to try to make a living (his business is still starting after 2 years and not much income) while mine is making consistent income. What can you share with us about how you decided you would be the one making money for the family… or what advice can you give women who (like me it seems) have this inner belief – the man should be making more money so I can take care of my baby – YET when that happens I go crazy and feel that I am letting down a gazillion women I’d like to help through the work I do.
As you can see, it’s all a big confusing mess in my head! Any advice on your process would be mega awesome! anytime… thank you 🙂
In this episode I’ll be sharing:
how to know if it’s the right thing for your family for you to be the woman breadwinner
what essential conversations you need to have with your hunky love
my personal journey of how I’ve made it work as the solo breadwinner of our happy lil fam
what speedbumps + relationship fuckeruppers to look out for (fuckeruppers actually IS a scientific word. Not really. But you DO know what it means, so there’s that!)
how to have a fucking glorious time as you do it all!
It’s a longer episode – a fairly intensive workshop because I wanted to make sure you gorgeous women got all the information and wisdom you really need to make this a shining, beautiful thing in your life.
Okay… Bring a cuppa tea, get cosy + jump in bed with me!
If you likes it and want to see more, make sure you likes it or share it along!