this is fitting as it’s the last day of august…
and august for me is my “grief” month…
and I didn’t grieve as I usually do…
it’s been a little bit bottled this month compared to other years…
perhaps i don’t want to feel it all again.
my eldest brother died in a farm accident when I was 14.
he was 25.
he never got to meet his niece and nephew.
he didn’t get to meet my partner.
one day he was there, the next he was not.
it felt like for a long time that there was someone missing in the family.
I feel so glad that I’m one of five kids and thus still had another brother and two sisters when he was gone.
He was born with cerebral palsy, and suffered brain damage at birth…
he was a champion though, and never thought of things as limitations…
he was an athlete and a farmer…
The hole is mending bit by bit… but when I think of it… it hurts all over again.
The accident is in my memory, but it still is painful.
I miss his blue eyes
and him bringing home big paper bags of “teeth” lolly
and his turquoise car
his throaty laugh
But… I am immensely grateful that I had the pleasure of being his sibling.
That I knew him.
That I got to be a part of his journey
Wherever you are Clinty
I miss you
and love you
We all do.
I am a rollercoaster
sometimes brimming with love
Sometimes just okay
sometimes like I’m a bit red raw from scrubbing with steel wool
The words are not flowing out today
they are dripping like a tap
i am unable to write about anything much
so i’ll write about my day shall i?
Today we woke up in our spare bedroom. We are getting a new king size bed tomorrow and have moved our bed into the spare room in preparation. It has been exciting, a bit like a mini-holiday of sorts. A change is as good as a holiday. Even if it’s just sleeping in your spare room for a few nights.
Had uni this morning. I love my lecturer’s accent – he is an ex pom and has a wonderful toffee/plum way of speaking. I am not really listening in his lectures, I just sit and highlight my textbook. Perhaps I’ll learn through osmosis. I do find when I get into it though that it is very interesting – the economic history of Aus’ relations with Asia.
Work was nice today. My workmates are just so lovely. Had my SARK and my Healing with the Angels cards with me so we had a group card reading session. Tee hee hee. They all dig the cards – the cynical ones too. It’s lovely to have open hearted sessions at work.
Me and Deb went looking for a journal for her and our friend Sally at lunch. She ended up buying one identical to mine… they are such beautiful books! Only 22 more sleeps till Deb goes to Haw*aiiiiiiii… how lovely for her!
Also bought Everyday Enlightenment – How to be a spiritual warrior at the kitchen sink by Venerable Yeshe Chodron.
Then on the bus I had a very groovy yak with Paris. He is one totally cool dude. It is absolutely fascinating to talk to someone who is into the same things ~ his sincerity, wisdom and quirkiness are delightful! Simply *talking* to other people on public transport opens whole new worlds of enjoyment, adventure, conversation and friendship.
Reflecting now back on the day ~ I am quite astounded… I realise that the people which most affected me today ~ Deb, Emelisa, Paris ~ are all *new* additions in Leonie World… two months ago I did not know them! How marvellous is this!
It seems very quiet in blogworld ~ where is everyone and how is everyone?
love laughter and quiet retrospective moments
And how is this for a funny way to end this blog…
Tony Barber singing Polyester Girl! ho ho ho 🙂
What a funny lovely world!
When it’s over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was a bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
When it’s over, I don’t want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened
or full of argument.
I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.
~ Mary Oliver
From jen gray’s website
* Getting my shoes absolutely soaked through
from walking in the rain.
* The Daily Guru’s Message of the Day:
“The people I see moving through the
new wave of spiritual energy
over the next ten to twenty years are not the people
who have a long list of diplomas and degrees,
but the people who know how to unlearn everything
that society has taught them.
The process of unlearning will make room for the
Universal Knowledge of God
to be instilled upon them.
God needs an empty slate upon which to write.
At the moment, our slates are full of information
which has little or no benefit to help save us
from the hole we are in.
This Knowledge comes to an individual who has
emptied their mind of useless clutter,
because the mind has become the main obstacle
to receiving Gods Inspiration and Love.
If your mind is full, your heart cannot receive
that which is being sent to it from up above.
The mind is the barrier.
It takes all the heavenly signals that come from a
higher place and distorts it.”
* Learning about the creative sides of my workmates –
what a delightful surprise!
* An email from Emelisa
* A Kinder Surprise ~ chocolate with a toy in it ~
a surprise from our new workmate
* Rainy days
* A new journal with purple, pink, cream, lime pages…
a place to be lost in
* RADII – revolutions in online writing
* “The hope that is left after all your hopes are gone —
that is pure hope, rooted in the heart.”
– David Steindl-Rast Gratefulness, the Heart of Prayer
I had an interesting conversation with a bus friend of mine, Paris…
He is a traditional Buddhist and we had a debate on happiness.
He said that as a Buddhist, you sought to leave behind desire for everything, including happiness – you desire or crave for nothing, including being happy.
I argued that happiness was a part of that journey – if you chose to be happy, the rest would follow.
I realised today he is right.
Today I am not feeling as happy as I usually do
and I am afraid that I will not get back to that happiness
I am craving, desiring happiness
and am sad at losing it.
If I was more buddhist I would not feel so sad at losing happiness, albeit briefly or not.
Joy is something that happens as a result of leaving behind desire.