4 Tips for Goal Setting Success

21Jan Quick but powerful

Possums!

SO! I am still talking about goals.

Why is that?

I mean GOALS. FUCK. BORRRRRING.

I get it. I used to eye roll about them too.

Until… I started actually SETTING THEM.

And REVIEWING THEM REGULARLY.

And seeing the changes they made in my life.

I think they are the most underrated success strategy ever.

And I reckon if every spirited and heart-centered adult + teenager was using them… this world would change and be healed for the better.

Goals can EMPOWER us to make our biggest dreams come true.

Let’s not forget about what the research says too:

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Why is it important to set goals?

  • We need guidance + advice to propel us into the direction of our dreams.
  • We need support systems to help us make it happen.
  • We need to spend time dreaming up our vision.
  • When we don’t get clarity around where we’ve been and where we want to do, we get stuck in the same old place & same old routine.
  • We need to let go of all the old past stuff & be grateful for it so we can move onwards.
  • We need delicious, probing questions to help us get to the soul of what it is we need.

I know we can all get caught up in how to write goals though.

So I wanted to give you some guidance on how to create goals that work. Some tips and tricks that will help you set and structure your goals in a way that will help you actually reach them.

I like to call this…

the…

(drum roll please)

G.O.A.L. method.

Fuck, that’s handy right?

HOW ON EARTH WILL WE REMEMBER IT???

Okay…

let’s get started babe!

GOAL NOTEPAD

  GET MOTIVATED

G: Get Motivated

Absolutely every single goal you set for the rest of your life should be motivating to you.

You may think that goals by their very nature are motivating, but that’s totes not true. For example, saying “I want to quit smoking/lose 3 kilograms/stop picking my nose and eating it,” is not motivating AT ALL.

It focuses on LOSS… not GAIN.

Without a motivational component, it is easy to become frustrated and even annoyed by goals.

There are bunches of ways to add a motivational component to your goals. All you have to do is really get to the heart of why you want to achieve the particular goal.

Maybe quitting smoking really = saving enough dosh to go sit on the beach for a week and no longer hacking a lung up.

Maybe losing weight really = having so much energy you can run after the kidliwinks (or run away from them super quickly so you can go to the dunny on your own #motivational)

Maybe stopping picking your nose = leaving calories for gluten free sticky date pudding. #priorities

Anyways… find the piece that makes you feel like a winner. And remember that. Over and over. In your head.

Coz it will get hard. But you need the good dream to hang on to.

OBSERVABLE

O: Observable

Make your progress observable and rewardable.

This could be as specific as keeping a spreadsheet of your progress as you lose weight, or as vague as taking a monthly progress pic. The My Shining Year Workbooks has ways that you can check in daily, weekly, monthly and/or yearly to make sure you are tracking your goals.

Another way to do this is with a technique called ‘Don’t Break The Chain.’ This involves getting a giant wall calendar dedicated exclusively to your goals. Hang it somewhere prominent and then every day that you successfully work towards your goal, you get to place a big red heart over that day. Plus, another excuse to get some fabulous unicorn stickers with glitter! #winnnnahhhhhhhhh

After a few weeks, the psychological aspect of not wanting to break your chain of success will kick in because you can actually visualize each day of work you put in leading up to that day. You can structure almost any goal in a way that works with this technique.

Another thing I do is create fundraising thermometers for money or numbers-related goals.

You know when a charity is fundraising, and they have a thermometer showing where they are in reaching their goal?

I do the same for me, and hang it above my desk to motivate me.

Here’s a current one of mine (to sell 15,000 printed workbook copies).

It’s also awesome for your kids to learn too. My kids get SO invested in my thermometers, and they make their own.

For example, my eldest decided she wanted to save all her weekly pocket money until she had $100.

She worked out it would take 20 weeks (she gets $5 a week), and has been patiently pooling her money away and filling in her thermometer which hangs over her bed.

Today was the hallowed day she hit $100. She proudly took her purse to the toy shop, and told us “I know how to save money up now!” She spent $31 and is keeping the rest.

It’s enormously satisfying to colour in sections of fundraising thermometers. So motivating!

21Jan G O A L

A: Actionable

Your goals need to be actionable! Don’t just make vague promises to yourself. This means they need to be specific and highlight targets and ways to get to those targets.

So… for example. Maybe your goals is being able to pretend you are Heidi and yodel in the Swiss Alps with the fam bam? I get it. I understand. I too have this goal. So much so I have been practicing yodelling for many years now. I feel I am becoming incredibly gifted at it. My husband parrrrrrticularly enjoys this hobby of mine. As soon as travelling with kids does NOT make me want to stab myself in the face with a cucumber, I am allllllll the fuck over that Swiss Alp. Like… Swiss cheese on bread. Holy.

MWAHAHAHAHAHA.

Anyways…

So… back on track. The goat track. The one up the mountain that Heidi goes on.

I AM KIDDING.

But seriously. I am sooooooo-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-ooooooo good at this. #heidipuns #yodelfest

If you… like me… have big hairy (goat) goals like I… break it into an ACTIONABLE goal.

With a Swiss holiday trip?

Turn it into these actionables:

Calculate how much money you would need to save.

Create a saving plan with a deadline (you could use the Don’t Break The Chain or Fundraising Thermometer ideas that we talk about).

Research which tour/agent to go through.

Book it in and pay it off!

Please also make sure yodelling is on your agenda. #IMPORTANT

LEEWAY

L: Leeway

Reality time:

You’re going to fuck it up a little as you go.

You are going to fall off the path sometimes.

So babe… you really do need to give yourself room to momentarily fail on your road to success. It happens to the very best of us! But that doesn’t mean you lay down beside the road and just die… you get right back on that magical unicorn and keep moving towards your goal.

The reality is that over the course of a year you will make a lot of mistakes. I mean fuck guys… I make a lot of ’em. That’s part of doing business, part of “being in the arena” as Brené says. Part of Daring Greatly. Part of Rising Strong after a fall. (SUUUUCH A BRENÉ FANGIRL)

You need to understand this and not let them discourage you. Taking everything in stride and not allowing setbacks to permanently take you of the path to your goal will make it much more likely you reach the finish line of your success!

GOAL

GOAL!

So… follow these steps and you’ll be well on your way to reaching those big beautiful goals of yours (whether they include goat herding or not.)

If you are truly ready for 2019 to be your most incredible year yet, in life or in business (or gasp! in BOTH?) I’m here to help you do just that… easily, cheaply + powerfully.

It’s time to make a decision, gorgeous soul.

You ready to make magic happen with powerful, proven and popular goal workbooks?

Grab your G.O.A.L.-tastic workbooks now!

Big love,


 

Transform your life + biz in 2019 with these powerful, proven and popular goals workbooks!


My Year In Review: 2018

Possums!

I’m immersed in my closing ceremony reflections for my 2019 goals workbooks, so I thought I’d share a yearly review with you.

The good, the hard, the big decisions + the results.

From depression to moving to homeschooling to signing a publishing deal and closing down a business.

I’m going to share with you a life + business review.

My goals this year were pretty simple: find the place to move to and be near the beach. When I look at my 2018 workbooks, the word beach is written frequently. Spend my birthday at the beach, have family adventures on the beach, go for walks on the beach.

We’ve done plenty of moving over the last 8 years. We were in Canberra for nearly 3 years and most of that time was spent wondering where the fuck we should go. I adored being around my oldest, dearest friends again, but living in the suburbs of an alpine city just wasn’t cutting it for us lifestyle wise. It was the hardest moving decision we’d ever made for so many reasons.

I had a painful fall into depression, but emerged out the other side with so much clarity. Living all over the country has been a grand adventure and has taught me what I really need to thrive: warm weather and the ocean. And so we leapt!

It’s a real relief to get to the end of the year and to have finally gathered the momentum and clarity to have moved. We live two minutes from the beach, and feel like we’re part of nature again, and are so glad we don’t have to struggle through 8 months of winter again.

High fives, past Leonie. I know it was hard yakka, but you got there. I honour your patience and persistence and faith!

I wrote all about our journey to moving in some epically long blog posts.

 

Next up… Let’s do a LIFE OVERVIEW!

Because life is the most important thing before all else.

My daughters and love are where my world begins and ends.

My kids!

I don’t share my husband and children online as much as I used to. It used to feel really comfortable and groovy for us, but now it doesn’t, so I don’t. They are still the thing I revolve around however.

My girls are 4 and 8 now, long limbed and sweet-natured. I found pregnancy and parenting babies (and toddlers) way, way, WAY harder than I do this age. I’d take 6 of these kids over one baby! (I won’t be having any more kids however… I’m spayed! I think history has proven that my body is prettttty fucking craaaaap

We’ve been homeschooling since April 2017. It has been SO awesome to be living in a place with a thriving, active homeschool community. We’ve made so many friends and been apart of some amazing co-ops. Some beautiful, beautiful times have been had. Even if we don’t always homeschool in the future, I will always be SO grateful for these magic memories we have together.

If you want to read more about why + how we homeschool, I gave away a free e-book about it here.

Love!

Celebrated 17 years of love with my Scorpio twin.

Thoughts on 17 years of love:

  • I feel like I’m only just starting to understand love a little. I hope by the time we celebrate 30 years of love together, I’ll understand it even more.
  • The truth of marriage is that sometimes he shits me to tears. And that sometimes I am drawn to tears by the grace, wisdom, care and empathy he has given me.
  • How does he continue to just get hotter as we go? It thrills me how much I like his constellation of cells.

I didn’t write these posts this year, but here’s my main sharings about love:

Favourite places visited in 2019:

Our road trip across the country. Ginger Factory. Big Pineapple. Sea Life. Noosa Spit. Hastings St. Noosa Botanic Garden. The Wonder Dome (a magical homeschool co-op in the forest). The beach. All the beaches. The beach beach beach. This is a pretty magical place.

My favourite meme of the year:

Eerily, this even LOOKS like my soccer mum van. HOW DID THEY KNOW IT’S A TRAVELLING TRASH CAN?

I became a gamer

Evidence:

Well, a very specific kind of gamer.

I got obsessed with Star Stables which is basically a quest game on horseback.

My kids originally started playing it, but then I fell in love so hard that I joined too.

If it was on anything but horses I would not be interested. But HORSES? SIGN ME DA FUQ UP STAT.

I read 500 books

I bought myself this phone case at the start of the year to remind myself to get off the fucking phone already.

I nailed my goal SO HARD. Ha!

You can read my favourite of those 500 books here.

I chopped my hair off (again!)

If you’ve been around for a while, you’ll know my hair meanders around all over the place, from Full Mermaid to Super Pixie and back again.

From Peak Mermaid to Peak Pixie.

I went full power chop a few weeks back. I needed some extra personal power, courage and lightness in my life, and this gives me just that. Plus, Pixie is perfect for tropical life.

Self Care

One of my goals is to nourish myself with self care.

This year, I gave myself LOTS of solo mama retreats in bed.

Almost every weekend, I would take an afternoon to head to bed to BE. I read, art journal, do e-courses, listen to audiobooks, write. Anything I want to do… I do! It’s very intentional filling of my own cup.

I don’t care what my kids do during that time… they can watch a movie or play Star Stables or whatever.

As long as I get my solo mama retreat time… my weeks are sweet.

Loss

I turned 36 this year, and the losses… they keep racking up.

And I know they will just keep on coming.

This year, we grieved the loss of my incredible nan (the last of my three wise elders), my brother’s dad and a dear old family friend.

That’s the thing: we can have all the goals under the sun, but it doesn’t save us from loss or being human. I can only hope to honour their lives with grace and gratitude. And to stay soft, open.

Best Day Of The Year

This year’s best day was the most magical experience. It fulfilled one of my oldest goals and dreams… to go for a long horse ride with my daughter. My eldest took horse riding lessons for quite a while, and then one sweet, serendipitous summer day we went on a long sunset trail ride through the alpine mountains.

I was SO proud of her for managing through such difficult mountainous terrain, and she did it with such joy and grace. It made my heart so happy to be out bush, on a horse’s back, sharing the miracle with one of my kids. And then we ate dinner on the floor of an old shed, and drove home long after it was dark, sore and smelling and smiling.

Other favourite days: my kids did an equine connection + yoga workshop at Ingelara Retreat. So blooming special! And there’s been quite a few days here, out in nature, with my kids and love, that have just filled my heart, over and over.

Now… BUSINESS OVERVIEW!

Lots changed for me this year as I continue to shift my businesses so they fit me and my life beautifully again. That’s the thing with businesses… as you grow and they grow, you need to prune so they are custom fit for you!

I closed down one business and shifted production models in another. In 2019, I’ll probably add another business into the mix as well.

Publishing Deal!

After manyyyyy motherfucking years of hunting + searching + wishing + wanting, I signed a publishing deal with BenBella. BenBella will now be publishing the My Shining Year goals workbooks from now on (including this years!) It’s been a joy to work with them and I’m so excited to take them out into the world on an even bigger scale. And YES! BenBella WILL publish my diary/planner if this year’s workbooks sell out. So if you haven’t yet, order them now!

You can read the full details about why I went from self publishing to a publishing deal here.

Since signing the publishing deal in June, it’s been a kind of mad rush.

First up me and Chris edited 2019 workbooks to get them off to print ASAP so we could do a quick release this year. Then a major revision of 2020 workbooks so my publishers can promo to local bookstores for next year’s release. After ten years of producing these books together, we are a bit of a well oiled machine. He does all the Indesign laying out and date updates, I rewrite + create illustrations, and we hodge podge it all together. He freaks out that we won’t get it done, and I gently remind him we will. I freak out that we won’t get it done, and he gently reminds me we will. We try to take it in turns to have our freakouts!

AND then on to promoting the 2019 workbooks now as well to help them get into as many hands as possible.

I was completely STUNNED when they hit #1 and #3 on Amazon AU for ALL FREAKING BOOKS.

And #1 in its category on the US Amazon site. HOLY MOLEY!

You can find all the places to order right here.

I also re-opened the Facebook group for workbookers after taking a looooooong social media hiatus.

Academy!

In September, I announced I was closing my Academy after 8 glorious years.

It wasn’t easy to decide to close down something which generates a lot of $$$ and has been such a joy for me for so many years.

It was more of an instinct, something I knew needed to happen to clear the space for what is next.

I’m glad I’ve done it, and I’m excited for what will come next. I’m not sure what that is yet, but I know I’ve made the right choice.

You can read more about that decision here.

doTERRA

I haven’t talked much about it this year, but I still have my side project of a doTERRA business. Last year I broke the world record in building to their highest rank in the fastest time possible. This year has been about continuing to nurture it and enjoy the residual passive income. It’s been a joy to see my team achieving their own goals in it too.

You can read more about my doTERRA adventure here.

How much did I work in 2018?

I’ve always had a (very) streamlined work week so I can focus my time on my kids. Since I homeschooled this year, it means I’ve had even less hours to squeeze in work.

I probably averaged about 8 hours a week. There’s been a few weeks during workbook production that I did a little bit more than that.

If you’re interested in reading how I manage businesses on part time hours (and always have), here’s a post. And another. And another. (I talk about this a lot! Ha!)

How much did I earn in 2018?

I haven’t done my exact figures yet, but much more than the Prime Minister of Australia, anyhow.

It was more than enough for our needs, and donate just under $30,000 to causes we believe in.

Other Business Shenanigans

Most Viral Post

My most viral post was, unfortunately, my rant about the shittiest business conference ever. I say unfortunately because I much prefer being a creative than a critic, but it seems like that post struck a chord with peeps who are over shitty pitchfests.

The Post I Want Everyone To Read

This sharing about racism.

All The Things I Gave Away

In September I gave away a stack of my courses, meditations + ebooks.

Here’s the full list:

What’s my plans for 2019?

Good question! I’ll let you know when they come to me! Ha!

I feel like I’ve created some space for the new vision to emerge.

And I will have some more time in the coming year for creating which is my favourite place to be.

I’m excited to continue crafting simple, strong, abundant businesses that fit me + my life!

Most of all: be a present, loving mama and wife. Be my own best friend. Tend to myself with self care. Soak in the great beauty of this world.

Get your goals on!

If you haven’t already, make sure you order your 2019 goals workbooks now.

January is officially going to be Plan A Shining Year month, with lots of webinars + Zoom gatherings for us to plan, create and dream a glorious, abundant, soul-centred life and/or biz in 2019!

With glad relief,


 


 

 

Going Full Human

It’s me.

I’m in my bedroom, locked away in my weekly retreat.

Each weekend, I seize some hours of my own. Escape to solitude while my kids and husband play Minecraft together.

Go build your animal-riddled contraptions, I encourage.

Mama needs herself.

I could outline all the educational benefits of Minecraft: how incredible it is for STEM and design and collaboration and coding.

But the main benefit is this:

Mama needs herself. She needs her solitude with herself to be okay with the world.

I lay in bed. I read books. I do e-courses. I art journal. I do whatever the fuck I want, without being needed.

My own sweet company is my greatest healer, the conduit to the divine.

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My husband just gently knocked on the door.

I’m ordering some things on Amazon, he tells me. I noticed you’ve got things in the cart already. Did you want me to order them for you now?

Yes, thank you my love. Thank you for thinking of me.

Then I close my door and lock it again.

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This morning, in our tiny library that really should be a bedroom but we couldn’t bear to be without great piles of books.

He looks at me and says:

What are you most afraid of?

The emptiness, I say.

Empty boxes? Empty holes in the ground?

For a man with a phobia of hole-riddled objects, his mind jumps to the physical.

No. No. The emptiness… in me.

What emptiness?

I find it hard to answer him. The feeling comes up, and my throat swells, and tears spill hot.

You know. If I stop doing everything, and just… sit. Then I might see there’s nothing in me. I’m terrified of the emptiness in me.

Oh, that emptiness, he says. We all have that.

Really? I thought it was just me.

No honey. It’s all of us. It’s called being human.

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While we are here, I might as well go all in.

I feel like I’m getting more human as the years progress.

How do you mean?

I feel like I used to be close to the divine when I was younger. I could hear the wisdom clearer. I could remember why I am here. I feel like I’m losing it as I age. Like a spiritual glaucoma.

He looks at me, blue eyes bright.

Me too. I thought it was just me. I used to feel so intuitive, and it’s not as loud anymore. 

And amongst the clammer of our children wrestling on the floor between us, we look into each other’s eyes, truly look, in the way we can forget to. The past and the future flash together into the here.

Looking into his eyes for the first time, the shock of recognition, two magnets turning toward each other.

Looking into his eyes as we wed, that translucent day when nothing else mattered but he and me and our tiny daughter.

And the moments that I didn’t see, or have yet to come.

Looking into his eyes as we age, grey and softly timbered.

Seeing his eyes when he was a teenager, bright and alive with knowing.

Love spreads across the timelines in all directions.

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When I look truly, I see what I’ve always known:

That we see ourselves in each other. That our base core, we are the same. And that we adore each other, intensely.

I love him when I see him.

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And here’s the thing: sometimes I don’t see him. I often don’t see him. Even when he is sitting right in front of me, I am looking inside only my own head. This being that I have loved throughout time is the same one I am regularly pissed off with. Who I misunderstand, and give the finger to behind his back.

That’s the thing: 17 years of love and life. Of children wrestling on the floor between us. Of endless discussions about what we need to do, what groceries we need next, what we will do with ageing parents, the pets and the mortgage and the cars that need servicing. The endless and of life, keeping us from the long looks and the simmering love.

I don’t know why I so easily forget: how much we adore each other. How everything is right here. But I do.

I am human. As is he.

Stumbling our way back to each other just as we stumble toward the divine.

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I don’t know what to do with the ever growing space between me and the divine, us and the divine.

Life got intensely hectic lately, with homeschooling and moving and all the rest.

I wonder if the connection will ever come back.

Does it need quiet and solitude? Creativity and music?

I’m not one for sex, drugs and rock’n’roll as a combo, but I could do sex and folk music. Would that work?

Or is it a timing thing? Caught in the grasp of hands-on parenting, will it return with spaciousness as they get older?

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It’s the age old quest.

The lost human, looking for God.

It’s the chant I sang so many years ago.

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The truth of the matter is: I have no fucking clue.

But I don’t think I’ll stop looking in the dark all the same.

I’ll let you know what I find.

Love,

 

Leonie’s Top Books of 2018

G’day possums,

It’s that time of year… my yearly book review post!

This has been an annual tradition for the last 7 years… to share the books that I’ve read for the last year that have deeply affected me. It started as a fun way for me to document and give gratitude for the book friends I’d made that year. And then I started hearing from readers who would order books based on my recommendations, and would adore them too! So it’s officially a Thing now!

You can find previous years here: 2012 | 2013 | 2014 | 2015 | 2016 | 2017

As always, this is not a list of the best books published for the year – just the books I read in that year. As they say in High Fidelity, the records are organised autobiographically.

This year I have read more books than ever… close to 500 (!!!!!!)

So this will be the best of those 500!

HOW I READ THAT MANY

About 100 of those were my own books, and the remaining 400-ish were books that I read to my kids (I kept tallies – about 200 of them were picture books, 200 were chapter books. They are at an age where they can sit still to listen for an hour or more, and they absolutely adore it. We read every night in bed for at least half an hour, and have spent hours curled up on the couch together during the day to pour through library books together. It’s been part of the joy of homeschooling that we’ve had this amount of time to love books up.

I used to have a pretty flimsy readaloud voice – it would hurt my throat pretty quickly. I’ve consciously practiced becoming a belly speaker instead of speaking from my throat. It’s worked really well and I’ve built up much more longevity.

To make myself devote more time to reading, I bought a phone cover to remind me to read books instead of a screen. I also kept a reading list on Goodreads to keep an exact number of how many books I was reading, and that was super helpful.

About 60% of those books were borrowed from the library, and the remaining were bought. After I read my own books, I give them to friends. With my kids’ books, we keep and add to our home library.

WHAT FORMAT I CONSUMED BOOKS IN

90% of the books I read were paperbacks
5% were Audible audiobooks
5% were Kindle books

My brief obsession with Kindle-only reading has officially died up the ass, reflecting global trends. We all go nuts for digital books, then swing back towards physical books.

I like having audiobooks to listen to while cooking dinner or doing art.

And I only read Kindle when books weren’t available in other formats, or I just wanted to read it straight away.

MY FAVOURITE BOOKSTORES

Local Sunshine Coast stores – Annie’s Books on Peregian  and Mary Ryan’s Noosa
Online orders – Book Depository
Audiobooks – Audible

THEMES OF BOOKS I CONSUMED

My intensive study this year was on racism and white supremacy, so a lot of my books reflect that.

Otherwise, it’s a blend of business, graphic memoirs, homeschooling and kid’s books.

HERE’S MY BEST BOOKS OF 2018

I’m going to award my top book this year to THREE books. All three affected me greatly in very different ways.

The Salt Path: A Memoir by Raynor Winn

Holy moley, this is an incredible book. The true story of a woman who decides to walk the English coastline with her husband after they become homeless and he is diagnosed with a terminal illness. Raw, profound, deeply loving. My husband bought it after reading its stellar Goodreads reviews, and then I snaffled it because I liked the cover. I couldn’t heart this book more.

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo

This should be required reading in schools and workplaces.

Please, please, please read this one lovelies. SO very important.

The State of Grace – Rachael Lucas

This is officially a Young Adult novel… but it ripped me open profoundly. It’s the story of an Aspie teen (Grace) navigating her life in all her Aspie-ness. I remember reading it, slack jawed on our red couch. I felt so vulnerable and seen and understood in a way I hadn’t before. Here was a character, finally, that was one hundred percent me… not just what neurotypicals are like! I messaged Rachael (the author): Maaaate. How did you do it? You wrote the inside of my head. It’s actually quite startling to see my innermost thoughts on paper. I feel less alone now.

If you’re an Asp, or have loved ones who are… this book. THIS BOOK. My gosh.

Thank you Rachael, for writing our stories. We need more characters we can see our neurodiversities in.

RACISM + WHITE SUPREMACY

I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness – Austin Channing Brown

This book is like sitting with a friend and hearing them pour out the pain of what it is truly like to live in a black body in America. I could feel my heart hurting and opening as I read it. She teaches so poignantly about her experiences and how we can do (so much) better.

Why I’m No Longer Talking To White People About Race – Reni Eddo-Lodge

The audiobook version of this is excellent especially. Reni shares the history and present day of racism in the United Kingdom, with her own personal stories interspersed.

Your Black Friend and Other Strangers – Ben Passmore

A fairly short read but it packs such a gut punch! It distills racism into a powerful, brightly coloured graphic novel.

Me + White Supremacy Workbook – Layla Saad

This is a non-traditional book (it is a free ebook) but I felt it was important to include here. This workbook is a deeply transformative educational experience to help you unravel and identify where you have internalised white supremacy beliefs. Spoiler alert: if you’ve grown up in a predominantly white culture (and even non white), you will have them. Especially if you don’t believe you do. It’s like breathing air… we didn’t consciously choose to take them in, but it is there nonetheless. And we have to consciously choose to unravel and unwind it out of us so we don’t cause further harm.

White Spaces Missing Faces: Why Women Of Colour Don’t Trust White Women – Catrice Jackson

This one can only be ordered direct from Catrice at the moment. This book is straight-talking and pulls no punches. It had me flinching and taking deep breaths. Painful, but necessary.

Dear White People – Justin Simien

Another graphic-ish book… stunningly designed and perfectly distilled.

Note: I know these books are US-centric books (with one UK book thrown in). Racism is not just in the US – it’s a worldwide issue. I definitely need to learn more about Australian-centric racism as well, so my Christmas present this year is a big stack of them for next year’s reading.

BUSINESS + SELF-HELP

Winging It – Emma Isaacs

Loved this one – Emma is a firecracker. The basic message: just fucking doooo it!

Risk & Resilience – Lisa Messenger

Oh maaaaaaate. I read this one in one sitting in the bath. It’s Lisa’s story of struggling with and eventually shutting down her magazine business to pivot in a new direction. Having made lots of changes in the past in my businesses where things weren’t working or driving me crazy, it was SUCH A RELIEF to read another entrepreneur going through the same thing. We need to talk about failures and fuckups and disappointments more… they are such a normal part of life and business!

Get Rich Lucky Bitch – Denise Duffield-Thomas

This got re-released through Hay House this year, and I’ve recommended it to so many peeps over the years. It’s an exceptional book, and DDT is a top quality chick. We’ve been mates for years, and she truly walks her talk.

The Joy of Leaving Your Shit All Over The Place – Jennifer McCartney

It’s funny – when I posted about reading this book on Instagram, it became one of my most popular posts of the year. Basically, it’s a book about being a messy motherfucker and being the antithesis of Marie Kondo. It favours humanity and creativity and rest instead of having a tidy house. I am fully behind this as a fellow mess-lover. I love my clutter! And yes, I WILL read this book and make art instead of cleaning shit up!

There’s a big freaking difference between living in a unhygienic hovel and just having a messy, normal house. I honestly reckon we’ve all gotten waaaay over the top house/cleanliness expectations thanks to renovating shows and perfect Instagram styling. I MUCH prefer when I walk into a friend’s house and they have to clear a little space on the table for us to have a cup of tea because the rest is covered with life detritus. It’s intensely homely. GO MAKE ART! GO REST! JUST FUCK ALL THIS CLEAN NONSENSE!

Obviously, I feel strongly about this. Ha!

Rising Strong as a Spiritual Practice – Brene Brown

Will read every book of hers, always. And will likely love it.

HOMESCHOOLING/TEACHING

We’ve been homeschooling still this last year, so I continued to eat up education books as fast as I could.

Teach Like Finland: 33 Simple Strategies for Joyful Classrooms – Timothy D Walker

Useful and fascinating. Tim, a teacher dude from the US, goes to teach in Finland to understand why it has the best educational results in the world. The reasons are often surprising, but common sense: less is more. Less homework, more holidays. More outside time, more individual projects. It correlates quite well with homeschooling possibilities too.

Love Learn Live – Csilla

Part memoir, part advice from a homeschooling mama who lives here on the Sunshine Coast.

Teacher: One woman’s struggle to keep the heart in teaching – Gabbie Stroud

Gosh, this one I just ATE UP. It was stunningly good and beautifully written and heart breaking and ALL THE THINGS.

GRAPHIC MEMOIRS

I like to use graphic memoirs to understand other humans better. There’s something about that visual storytelling that leaves a big impression on my heart. I think graphic novels have helped me become more compassionate and with a better understanding of what life can be like for other people experiencing physical and mental illnesses, racism and homophobia. Plus all the other human condition stuff: families, childhoods, travel, natural disasters, grief. I actively buy graphic memoirs on all the topics I can to educate me and open me.

El Deafo – Cece Bell

This is so beautiful and tender. The story of a young girl who is deaf, and her experiences at school and making friends. I’ve since seen it is in a lot of recommended reads for kids around 10+, so a good one for them too!

Psychiatric Tales – Darryl Cunningham

These are 11 stories of Darryl’s time working as a psychiatric nurse. Chapters cover dementia, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, suicide, antisocial disorder and more. Holy moley, it was eye-opening and just BRILLIANT.

Queer: A Graphic History – Meg-John Barker and Julia Scheele

This one was another one in the running for my best book of the year because of how much it affected me. It’s not my usual favourite style of graphic memoir – instead it’s more like a university read on queer history and theory that just happens to be illustrated. I had to work harder to understand everything, but mate, it blew my head off. It totally transformed how I look at gender and the binary, and how I see myself. Highly recommend!

Going Into Town: A Love Letter to New York – Roz Chast

Roz’s Can’t We Talk About Something Pleasant? was the book that got me hooked on graphic memoirs two years ago. It was pretty much perfection on a stick, and she opened a whole delicious book genre up to me, so I will always feel a glorious weeping soft spot for her. This is her notes on what it’s like to live/visit New York, and I just thought it was the bomb diggity.

A.D.: New Orleans After the Deluge – Josh Neufeld

I found this in a fantastic second hand book store in Eumundi. It tells the stories of five different people who lived in New Orleans for the hurricane. The stories are catastrophic and gave me a whole new understanding and compassion. Well worth a read.

In-Between Days: A Memoir About Living with Cancer – Teva Harrison

Need to be honest with you: I read this back in Jan. I marked it as five stars, so it must have been good. I just can’t remember shit about it, apart from it being beautiful and about cancer. So… there you go. 

ROMANCE NOVELS

Tessa Dare

I continued to whore my way through as many Victorian/Regency romance novels as I could. They really are the best brain candy ever… I try to read one each weekend. I read stacks this year, but the one author who is just unfailingly brilliant is Tessa Dare. If you want to start somewhere, start with her.

KIDS BOOKS

So many recommendations on this front that I’ll highlight a few + just link the rest!

Olga – Elise Gravel

Elise is the bomb diggity. This is the second Olga book – my kids adored the first one so much. It’s the story of a (probably Aspie) girl who prefers science experiments and animals to people.

Elise’s The Cranky Ballerina was also fantastic – a great picture book that advocates for gender-free hobbies.

Truly Tan series – Jen Storer

My eldest daughter eats up vast quantities of audiobooks on top of the reading we do each day. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that her ABSOLUTE FAVOURITE audiobook series is by Jen Storer… who, by a delicious twist of fate, is a fan of my workbooks! Not just that: but she uses the workbooks to plan out the Truly Tan series! HA!

Here’s her workbook page planning one out:

But anyways: back to Truly Tan! Starry tells me they are funny and adventurous and smart and always make her want to keep going!

Isla Fisher – Marge in Charge series

SO silly. SO great. So ridiculous I really enjoy reading them out loud too!

Other Glorious Kids Books:

 

AND OF COURSE!

HOW COULD I FORGET!

MY 2019 GOALS WORKBOOKS!

Waaaaay back in 2019, pregnant with my first baby, I decided to give myself the gift of making a wee book for myself to help me plan out my goals for the coming year. And I didn’t want it to be all grey and masculine and black and white and BLERGH… I wanted RAINBOWS! UNICORNS! COLOUR! GLORIOUS GLORIOUS LIFE! As an afterthought, I offered the PDF online, thinking maybe 10 other peeps might like to make goal setting fun and magical too.

Since then… over 350,000 incredible souls worldwide have used the goals workbooks with HUGE results. It brings me to grateful tears that they work so well for so many. This year, they hit #1 and #3 simultaneously on Amazon AU for ALL FREAKING BOOKS WTF!

For me personally, my workbooks have helped me birth so many miracles in the world: we’ve been able to live our dreams of quitting our jobs to raise our children and travel around Australia for the last 8 years. I’ve been more creative and productive than ever, won business awards, broken a world record, built serial 7 figure companies, deepened my marriage and continued growing into the biggest, brightest version of myself. That’s the power of goals. Know what you want and you too can create miracles.

If you haven’t ordered yours yet, here’s all the places you can get them from (printed and digital versions available!)

Hope this wee list has been useful for you and inspired you with future reading.

Books are such magical creations… capable of transformation and awakening, adventure and education.

Whoever invented books needs to be visited by the oral sex fairy, stat.

THE END.

Big love,

 


 


 

 

On Insecurity (Or The Lack Thereof)

Party peeps,

I was interviewed on The Insecurity Project podcast.

It’s been a while since I’ve shared in that way, but gosh that was glorious fun!

I talked with Jaemin about insecurity (or my lack thereof) and why self care and self love is the only rational answer.

Go have a listen here… I think you’ll get a good giggle.

Also: because it’s me… I swear to the fuckery.

Lemme know what ya think and if you’d wanna hear from me more in these kinds of interviews!

xo

L