December 2012

In Praise of Ordinary Christmasses

by Leonie Dawson on December 25, 2012

Hola dearhearts,

I’m not sure what it is I need to say, and yet I know I must say it.

Sitting here, Christmas afternoon.

By way of a tiny little Christmas miracle, I managed to help Ostara to take a nap (her first one in MONTHS) by reading the same book over and over again, slowly and quietly, until I think I bored her into sleepland. My love naps beside me, the dogs beside him. Outside the cicadas are singing together, the windchimes are belling in the breeze. It is hot and feels like rain. A true tropical Christmas.

And I want to say:

I hope you are having a merry Christmas filled with love and kindness and laughter

but I also want to say:

It’s okay if you’re not. Truly, it’s okay.

It doesn’t have to be perfect. It doesn’t have to be good. Whatever it needs to be, it is.

I think for a long time I hunted and yearned and grieved over Christmasses being imperfect. How in some way, how good one single day was would be the measurement of my life.

But it’s not. It’s truly not.

The measurement of my life is the ordinary days. The little moments adding up with each other to culminate in a life well loved.

I want to say it’s okay if things aren’t perfect. If you don’t have everyone together. If you don’t have a big, happy, functional extended family (or any kind of family at all). If everyone isn’t happy. If the kids are whiny or you are whiny or there are no kids and instead of noise there is silence.

It’s okay. It’s okay. It’s okay.

You’re not broken, you are whole.

Christmas wasn’t meant to be anything but what it is:

Whatever appears for you. Whatever your day is composed of right now.

Whatever happens.

Sometimes it can be so hard to actually just genuinely relax and have fun and enjoy when there’s so much external pressure for Christmas to be HAPPY! FULL OF FAMILY! PERFECTLY COMPOSED! NO PROBLEMS EVER!

And the pressure builds up until we inevitably feel overwhelmed, crabby and heartsick at why our life doesn’t look like the way we think others’ lives are.

(Extra resources: I like what Sarah Wilson said yesterday about Christmasses: that without fail, she cries at each one just from the build up of energy. The ever lovely Ask Moxie also shares a free guide for parents going through a divorce this Christmas.)

If nothing more, Christmas serves as a time for us to pause in the stillness before another year begins. To look back and see what just happened. The blessings and the shit and the hard stuff and the miracles, all tied together in a bundle of a year. Who you were a year ago. Who you are now. You might be feeling a little more war-torn but I can bet a hundred bucks you are wiser, deeper and lovelier than you could ever know.

That’s all my darlings.

Wherever you are:

in the midst of the BEST DAY EVER or the Shittiest Crapfest of the Century or something I like to call a Festival of Awkward, or something in between:

I want you to know you’re okay. You’re whole. Everything is going to be okay. It’s okay for things to be how they are today.

Your whole life is waiting for you. All the ordinary days to come.

And it’s going to be bloody beautiful.

Stretching my arms out wide,

Evidence That 2012 Actually IS The Best Year Ever!

by Leonie Dawson on December 22, 2012

Lovebugs,

I’ve written before that the world is good. Not in just a hippy-dippy Pollyanna-optimism way, but certifiably + statistically in a big ole range of ways.

And you know I ALWAYS love being proven right.

So here’s this bloody fantastic article: Why 2012 Was The Best Year Ever.

SO much so it deserves a whole blog post devoted to bringing your attention to it.

Evidence That 2012 Actually IS The Best Year Ever!

  • Never has there been less hunger, less disease or more prosperity.
  • Most developing countries are charging ahead, and people are being lifted out of poverty at the fastest rate ever recorded
  • Global inequality is at its lowest in modern times.
  • Extreme poverty was halved seven years ahead of schedule
  • The world’s not just getting richer, but fairer too.
  • Fossil fuel consumption… fell by 4 per cent. This remarkable (and, again, unreported) achievement has nothing to do with green taxes or wind farms. It is down to consumer demand for more efficient cars and factories.
  • Advances in medicine and technology mean that people across the world are living longer.
  • The average life expectancy in Africa has increased by FIVE YEARS in the last decade.
  • The number of people dying from AIDS has been in decline for the last eight years.
  • Deaths from malaria have fallen by a fifth in half a decade.
  • Nature can still wreak havoc, but as countries grow richer, they can better guard against devastation.
  • There have been fewer war deaths in the last decade than any time in the last century.

The way the article finishes too brought full on goosebumps to me:

Fifty years ago, the world was breathing a sigh of relief after the Cuban missile crisis. Young couples would discuss whether it was responsible to have children when the future seemed so dark. But now, as we celebrate the arrival of Light into the world, it’s worth remembering that, in spite of all our problems, the forces of peace, progress and prosperity are prevailing.

Yes, there is still work to be done.

Yes, there are things to be changed.

But never, ever doubt that your efforts aren’t making a difference.

They are.

A whole world of them.

As more and more women step up to create incredible lives and incredible businesses, I whole-heartedly believe and know that this will significantly impact the wellbeing, joy and prosperity of not just ourselves and our families but the rest of the world too.

I’ve said it before and I’ll keep saying it again and again: the work we are doing here is huge. It is powerful. And it has effects more far reaching than we could possibly know.

all my love,



Homegirls,

You know you can buy gift copies of the 2013 Creating Your Incredible Year workbooks (both LIFE and BUSINESS editions), right?

And that you can even buy bulk packs?

And gift pack bundles of both editions?

And that they are perfect for family, friends + even clients?

(We have so many lovely small business owners who buy these as presents for clients each year!)

And that we’ve priced them uber cheap – spare change, really – so we can help as many beautiful souls as possible have an absolutely beautiful year next year in their life or business.

But you know that right? Yeah? Awesome.

You can order them over here (under the “Buy As Gifts!” section)

(If you’d like to order more quantities than we have there, buzz us a line + we’ll work something out. We’ve already had one gorgeous woman order 100 (!!) for her clients.)

And just incase you were wondering: I believe whole of heart that this work is powerful. It’s not selfish or meaningless to create a beautiful life or business for yourself. And in fact, when we create our dreams, our lives and our businesses, when we grow into ourselves even more, we can help this world change in deep and good ways.

The more soulful women have incredible businesses, wealth is redistributed and more money is spent on children and philanthrophy.

The more women have incredible lives, the more we can bring ourselves – our fullness, our joy, our sovereignty into the deep work of healing ourselves, our children, our menfolk, our communities, our world.

Goodness cultivates more goodness. Light cultivates more light.

Give gifts that change lives + change worlds.

All my love,

 

P.S. 10% of your purchases will be donated with love to Red Cross to help beautiful souls heal (this is on top of the usual philanthropy efforts we undertake each month). Group hugs!