Switch Off Sunday: Give yourself what you need

Hola gorgeous Goddess,

Hurrah! It’s that beautiful day of the week again… that ritual of making all or part of my Sunday switched off… logging off my ‘puter and doing some of those things I really wanna do… and just adoring my beautiful goddess life.

Why do I make it a ritual? Because… all of us know it would be better to take time off from being online… but as the days roll by, we forget to do it. By making it a weekly ritual, it becomes part of our gorgeous routine… and becomes integrated into our luscious life.

You can join me by taking off the whole day, the morning, the afternoon or just a couple of hours off from being online.

Welcome back, sacred Sunday!

My plans for my Switch Off Sunday:

This weekend I’m planning on having a gentle, mostly switched off weekend. My sweet love is taking off extra time off work so we can have a long weekend just being together {hurrah!} – I am so in need of some solid I-love-Chris-time right now.

What I need to give myself this weekend is gentleness, restoration and rejuvenation.

So I can get in a mostly switched off weekend, I’m going to finish up my must-do’s this afternoon {I’m a-writing this on a Friday – see?} and leave the could-do’s for another day. My Switch Off weekend is way more important than the could-do’s.

So here’s my list of wild {but gentle} Switch Off possibilities…

MeditatioNap like it’s 1999

Ohhhh yes. Just watch me.

Even more thrilling… Mr Soul-Hunk himself just called me to tell me he managed to find the last of these pillows in town for me.

I think I might just purrrrr like a cat… mmmmmm solid rest! Is it only pregnant goddesses who get their jones on about the perfect pillows, or what? It’s only been recent times since I’ve come waylaid with this affliction… and I’m a-wondering if there is a correlation. hee hee!

Love on this man like it’s 2001

It’s been a really, really intense month for us – a whole bundle of life stuff that hasn’t gone smoothly. It’s slowly getting back to some kind of form of non-nutty, but it’s been pretty exhausting in the process.

So I’m gunna soak up our three days of together-ness this weekend.

Being with my hunk feels like this photo… his love is a soul-cave that helps me rebalance again.

I’m really, really looking forward to that.

Go get some fresh air and open space

A month ago, I had a dream that I went to a friend’s farm, stepped out of the car into the wide open space, and took a deep breath.

And my soul felt at home, like what I needed the most was fresh air and open space around me. It was a feeling of instant relief.

But I kept on putting it off. Kept on ignoring that dream, that need.

I don’t know where we are going to go… but somewhere. Somewhere where there is fresh air and wide open space.

Possibilities for your gorgeous Switched Off Sunday!

You are so welcome to join me in switching off, for the day or the afternoon or two hours… and re-discovering the joys of being switched onto life outside the laptop.

Facebook, Google Reader, Twitter, blogs and your inbox will all be there tomorrow waiting for you. But Sundays are for beautiful recharging 🙂

Here’s some ideas for what to do to make today your own Switch off Sunday:

The Meditationap is your friend.

Have a book picnic in bed. Or even if you need to do some stuff – take it to bed to do. My bed is my favourite workspace!

Divinely declutter a cupboard or shelf. You will feel amazingly lighter!

Write a letter. Or in your journal. Or on your hand. Let your pen fly free!

Study up. Maybe you’re enrolled in a course. Maybe you’ve bought an e-book {or like OMG! a real book!} Maybe you’ve got a course. Maybe you’ve got a pile of study materials you haven’t got around to using yet. Today could be that lovely day of mind-and-soul-expansion!

Something else. Something that’s mindful, and giving you what it is you need right now. You probably aren’t going to find what you are looking for by pressing refresh on your Facebook page to see if anyone has written anything new lately. {I know only coz I have already looked ;)}. Today is the day you can give yourself what you need. I have faith in you!

This is your loving and sacred butt-kicking:
Log off, and give yourself what you need.

love you big time,

Making a big change: email hiatus


Support comes in many forms…

Hola beautiful goddesses!

This is a big one to write. A very big one.

Basically… to summarise…

*big breath*

I am now on email hiatus.

What does that mean?

From now on, I won’t be the Goddess Who Answers Emails. You’ll be taken care of by my lovely support crew instead.

Why oh why?

I’ve been wanting this for a really long time. Mostly because taking care of an inbox that can get up to 200 or so emails a day is incredibly draining.

And here’s the thing: I love, love, love what I do. I love Goddess Guidebook. I love what we are creating here. I love helping goddesses. I love creating lovely things that help goddesses. I love all of you.

But I don’t love getting drained. I don’t love opening up my emails and feeling utterly overwhelmed by all the emails. I don’t love that my inbox takes up 80% of my work time.

That’s really scary to write that… that 80% of my time spent in my passion is doing something that isn’t what I need to be doing.

I love love love connecting with all of you goddesses – but when it’s getting to the point that I’m wanting to cry when I think about my inbox? That’s just so not helpful… to you, or to me.

And I’ve got a list of sixty new projects that I want to be working on – ideas that totally fill my heart up with joy – things that goddesses keep asking me for – goodies that I think will really help more goddesses. And they aren’t getting done.

Plus… in about nine weeks or so, my whole life is about to change. Our Little Mermaid is due to arrive in the world, and needs me to be her mama.

There’s only so many things I can keep in my wagon… and email isn’t one of them.

When I was growing up, there were two things I wanted to be in the world:

an artist/writer/person who changes the world & a mama.

And I’m trying to work out how I can possibly do the two.

Right now? Totally not possible. Not if I’m doing everything. Not if I’m answering so many emails.

I need some more breathing space in my life. I need to know that I’m helping as many goddesses as I can with my time – not just mindlessly trying to get to Inbox Zen. I need to know I can have a business that doesn’t swallow me whole. I need to know I can be a good mama. I need to give precedence to Little Mermaid over my inbox.

How you are going to be taken care of

My biggest worry about this whole thing from this is making sure that all of you precious goddesses are taken care of.

I’ve enlisted a few beautiful souls who will be answering emails about:

  • courses
  • meditations
  • kits
  • advertising & sponsorship
  • interviews.

There’s three lovely souls who will be helping out:

Goddess Sone is still running Goddess School for me and taking care of course emails.

And I’m so excited to announce the lovely Goddess Marissa will be a Support Sprite with emails.

And you may even hear from my sweet hunkaspunky Chris whenever I need his Tech Support God-ness.

Just to make it really beautiful and clear with good boundaries, my lovely Goddess (+God) support crew won’t be able to help with personal, spiritual or creative questions. They are there to make sure goddesses who have purchased goddess goodies are able to get them perfectly.

If you have a personal, spiritual, creative or other kind of question, the best way I can answer it is if you ask it here. It can be anonymous if you like. I try and answer them with blog posts as much as I can and where I have energy.

How to connect with me…

I still read every blog comment, and hang out in the Comments Circle as much as possible.

With more time and energy, I’ll be able to keep writing here at Goddess Guidebook – and hopefully write even more good yummy goddess helpfulness.

And be able to keep making kits and courses and meditations that really, really help lovely goddesses.

I’m so committed to our little temple of goddesses here. I’m also utterly committed to finding a way of living and working that is joyful and sustainable and possible for me.

The Way Forward…

So what’s really going to change here? Not really that much I hope!

I’ll still be here, blogging away.

And I’ll still be sitting in the Comments Circle.

And if you need a hand with your goddess goodies, you’ll be taken care of by some truly gorgeous souls. We’re just making the Goddess Guidebook family bigger… with all the more love to share around.

Got questions? To the comments circle, dearest!

Thank you so much for being here, sweet soul. I so hope you can understand my choices in this. It’s been such a big one that has sat on my heart for so long.

Thank you for understanding, for honouring… for walking this beautiful path with me.

big love to you,

Birthing Stories: Goddess Pixie

Hola gorgeous Goddesses,

We need to share our birthing stories. The ones that are less about war and pain, and more about magic, miracles and possibility. Of courage, and love, and intuition.

Of what it means to be a woman, and a mother, and a soul on an intense, transformative journey.

These birth story posts are gatherings… celebrating circles of women who have experienced birthing and their sacred stories. I’m so grateful & blessed that mamas from around the globe have agreed to speak their stories to me, and to us… I want to weave a woven wicker basket of mama’s birthing stories for us all to hear in our hearts.

Today’s birthing stories are from one of my favouritest families in the world – Goddess Pixie {an amazing artist & circle sister}, her wonder-hubby Brandon & their two precious spirit-children Miles & Ivy.

* How did you prepare for your births?

With Miles Lighthorse, my firstborn, I read many home birth books, practiced breathing deeply, took a hypnobirthing class, ate healing foods, and rested as much as I could. I created a beautiful meditation where I envisioned my body opening up like a gate to allow him out smoothly and every guide and helper I could imagine was there, assisting me! With my daughter, Ivy Tallulah, I trusted that she would arrive in perfect time and I don’t think I read a thing! Perhaps a magazine. I built my confidence for homebirth both times by seeing my regular doctor and gathering as much information about the baby as I could, while planning my birth with the midwife simultaneously. Somehow, this made me feel like I had all of my bases covered!

* Can you describe your birth story?

What stands out the most to me about the act of giving birth is how it is the only time in my life that I can remember time truly standing still.

The primal body takes over, and in a beautiful dance between mother and new life, my babies came forth. I’ve never before felt so… holy.

Both of my babies were born quickly and without any conventional assistance except for when they were emerging, when the midwife helped them out and onto me. My breath, combined with the support and energy of my husband carried us through the amazing physical and spiritual process. Labor was exciting and fun, positive and upbeat, until the shift of transition took place and the created focus on the birth of our children.

* What was the best technique you used when birthing?

Using my breath and keeping my body and legs relaxed and open through the more intense contractions was very helpful. Fear leads to tension, which leads to pain, so I tried to steer clear of tensing up. I stayed in the warm bath for about three hours before my daughter was born and the warm water was perfect at helping me feel weightless. Oddly, I would turn onto my side in the tub with each surge, I think that it helped shift her off of my back, where I was really feeling the pressure. In both births, my bag of waters broke just before my babies were born. For this reason, the most intense feelings were right at the end. I used low, abdominal sounds instead of high pitched releases. This helped me stay in my power, stay energized and get through the deliveries. I also believed that my babes would prefer to hear these kinds of sounds over something more shrill. I channeled my best mama bear growls 🙂

My favourite! Pixie-Mama, Ivy-in-belly & Miles the Magical!

* Do you have any birthing/mama books, blogs, resources that inspired you that you’d like to share?

I really love Birthing From Within, by Pam England. Because visualization really stays with me and builds my confidence when I’m facing something challenging, I found that the exercises and meditations spoke to me.

I love anything written by Peggy O’Mara, of Mothering Magazine. Having a Baby Naturally and Natural Family Living are two books I read over and again.

* What do you want to say to all the birthing-mama-goddesses-to-be out there?

I’d love for women to know that pregancy and birth are organic processes that cannot be controlled or overplanned. Having a vision for the kind of birth you’d love to have is necessary to create that birth as best you can.

Beyond that, surrendering your body to this miracle helps take the pressure off immensely.

It also really helped me to keep perspective on the history of birth-billions of women have done this before us, so we mustn’t feel alone or frightened. I believe that babies about to be born can sense our confidence and our fear, and this is their first insight about whether we will be strong for them later on. I wanted to make a good impression. 🙂

I’d also love to add that I very much enjoyed my Blessingway ceremony. Having friends and family honor my transition from maiden to mother set the tone for my birth and my first parenting experiences, while also bonding me to these women.

I was worshiped for an entire day from head to toe, stories were shared, henna tattoos were drawn on my belly, my hair plaited, a tree was hung with wishes for my son, a book of letters to Miles from all of my friends compiled. It was a rite of passage like no other, that made my birth feel even more sacred. I will never forget how treasured I felt, and surrounded by goddess love. And it’s okay to ask for this.

Thank you so much, sweetest goddess sister Pixie for sharing your precious truths & stories with us!

There was so much goodness from this interview there will be a Part Two in the next week… with some scrumptious mama-goddess sharings… so keep your eyes wide open darlinghearts! Wahoo!

big love,

Switch Off Sunday: Do bugger-all-nothing if you like!

Hola gorgeous Goddess!

Hurrah! It’s that beautiful day of the week again… that ritual of making all or part of my Sunday switched off… logging off my ‘puter and doing some of those things I really wanna do… and just adoring my beautiful goddess life.

Why do I make it a ritual? Because… all of us know it would be better to take time off from being online… but as the days roll by, we forget to do it. By making it a weekly ritual, it becomes part of our gorgeous routine… and becomes integrated into our luscious life.

You can join me by taking off the whole day, the morning, the afternoon or just a couple of hours off from being online. Write down now how long is the perfect time for you to “Switch Off”.

This Switch Off Sunday is a little bit different…

Usually, I write a big list of possibilities of things to do when switching off this Sunday.

But you know what?

Right now, I need some do-nothing-ness. I need some total, unobliterated, bugger-all nothing.

Maybe I’ll stare at the tv. Maybe I’ll get a wave of inspiration and make something. Maybe I’ll just sit on the couch and stare at a wall for a while. Maybe I’ll read a trashy novel. Maybe I’ll get myself a massage. I ding dang need one. Maybe I’ll cry. Maybe I’ll laugh. Maybe I’ll just practice the art of being. Of doing nothing. Of not having any plans. Of no expectations, of not asking for anything from myself.

Because that’s what I need. I need to not run after anything right now – not accomplish anything – and not feel productive.

And maybe – just maybe – after all the holidays, and jumping on the 2010 choo-choo train, you might need some nothingness too. Some non-doing. Some uproductivity. Some space to just sit and integrate and not put out any energy for a while.

You deserve it, darlingheart.

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It’s time!

Time to switch off… and soak in this beautiful day. Facebook, Google Reader, Twitter, blogs and your inbox will all be there tomorrow waiting for you. But Switch off Sundays are just for you.

What do you need to give yourself permission to do (or not do) today?

love you like you are a mountain of fairy floss & I am a giant mouth,